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Real Men Feel: Ep. 128, The Gillette Ad and Backlash

The Best Men Can Be?

The Gillette Ad and Backlash Episode 128, January 17, 2019

A Real Men Feel panel has been formed to discuss the Gillette campaign that seems to have the Internet in an uproar. Much appreciation to Al Flemming, Ameé Quiriconi, Anthony Simeone, Boysen Hodgson, Brandon Boucher, Brian Cardoza, Kenny Earl, and Tony Crisostomo for being a part of this show.

“The ad asks, Is this the best a man can get? How does asking questions come off as lecturing or offensive?” ~Andy Grant

I don’t understand how being called to be better is a lecture. How being asked to call out other men when they are engaging in bullying, sexist, or racist behavior. I didn’t see a lecture, I saw an invitation to tell people when they are going too far instead of keeping it to ourselves. I think that is a good thing.

I sounded the Real Men Feel horn, so I could listen to what others have to say. Online comments have their place, but they don’t make for a quality discussion.

Topics Covered Include:

  • What was your first reaction to the Gillette ad?
  • What is Gillette’s goal with this?
  • Traditional and toxic masculinity
  • What does “boys will be boys” mean to you?
  • The role of mothers
  • Do we want to focus on masculinity or humanity?
  • Is this part of the pussification of men?
  • Thanks to Gillette for sparking needed conversations

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 128, The Gillette Ad and Backlash

The Best Men Can Be?

The Gillette Ad and Backlash Episode 128, January 17, 2019

A Real Men Feel panel has been formed to discuss the Gillette campaign that seems to have the Internet in an uproar. Much appreciation to Al Flemming, Ameé Quiriconi, Anthony Simeone, Boysen Hodgson, Brandon Boucher, Brian Cardoza, Kenny Earl, and Tony Crisostomo for being a part of this show.

“The ad asks, Is this the best a man can get? How does asking questions come off as lecturing or offensive?” ~Andy Grant

I don’t understand how being called to be better is a lecture. How being asked to call out other men when they are engaging in bullying, sexist, or racist behavior. I didn’t see a lecture, I saw an invitation to tell people when they are going too far instead of keeping it to ourselves. I think that is a good thing.

I sounded the Real Men Feel horn, so I could listen to what others have to say. Online comments have their place, but they don’t make for a quality discussion.

Topics Covered Include:

  • What was your first reaction to the Gillette ad?
  • What is Gillette’s goal with this?
  • Traditional and toxic masculinity
  • What does “boys will be boys” mean to you?
  • The role of mothers
  • Do we want to focus on masculinity or humanity?
  • Is this part of the pussification of men?
  • Thanks to Gillette for sparking needed conversations

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It is only by challenging ourselves to do more that we can get closer to our best.

See the ad everyone is talking about We Believe: The Best Men Can Be

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 127, Dealing with Smartphone Addiction

Smartphone addiction

Dealing with Smartphone Addiction Episode 127, January 15, 2019

This week Andy Grant is joined by fitness and lifestyle coach, Oliver Cowlishaw, who shares everything that rose up when he confronted his smartphone addiction. Andy discovered Oliver thanks to a video Oliver made about his effort to cut down on his smartphone use and all the underlying shame that he could no longer ignore.

“If I am emotional, if I am vulnerable, if I let my sensitive nature be on display, bad things will happen. The video was a test of that.” ~Oliver Cowlishaw

Everyone makes choices between authentically feeling whatever is going on for them, and not – by ignoring, stuffing, denying, blaming, attacking… there are countless ways to avoid our emotions. What they all come down to is some sort of a distraction. One of the most potent and addictive distractions we all carry around are smartphones.

What would you be doing if you weren’t looking at your phone? What would you see if you weren’t staringng at a screen? What do you feel when you stop reaching for that smartphone?

Topics Covered Include:

  • What prompted you to want to cut down your smartphone use?
  • What did you notice when you curtailed your use?
  • Were those feelings always there?
  • What steps did you take to cut down your smartphone usage?
  • What is healthy, productive use vs. distraction?
  • Do you have a goal for smartphone use?
  • Does anything stand out as easier than expected in lessening your phone use?
  • Shame makes you more susceptible to smartphone addiction.
  • What’s the response to the video been?
  • The valley of deception

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“Reaching for the phone was often to avoid a feeling.” ~Oliver Cowlishaw

See Oliver’s original video Confronting My Smartphone Addiction and Toxic Shame.
Connect with Oliver on Facebook.
Find Oliver on Instagram.
Check out more of Oliver on YouTube.

See the 60 Minutes report on Brain Hacking Built into our Smartphones.

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 126, One Broken Mom’s Thoughts on Men

Ameé Quiriconi of One Broken Mom

One Broken Mom’s Thoughts on Men Episode 126, January 9, 2019

This week Andy Grant is joined by the host of the One Broken Mom podcast, Ameé Quiriconi. As a former wife, and always a mom, Ameé has concerns about the mental health of men, raising a son, dating, and more.

“When we pretend we are perfect, we miss tremendous opportunities to heal and repair.” ~ Ameé Quiriconi

We found that women face many of the same challenges men do, specifically; hiding behind masks, not being encouraged to express emotions, fear that they can’t keep up with expectations, and dealing with the judgment of others.

Topics Covered Include:

  • Tell me about your podcast, One Broken Mom
  • Why call it broken?
  • Did being with a man who wasn’t in touch with his emotions or trauma make things more difficult?
  • Stigmas and expectations around motherhood
  • A violation of a primal trust can shut us down
  • What are some of the best ways you feel repaired?
  • What is the biggest trauma most men experience?
  • Has raising a son changed your perspective on men?
  • Can you have the sort of conversations you have with your son with adult men?
  • Do you want to remain single?
  • Boundaries, codependancy, and fixing
  • Confusing intimacy with intensity
  • Is there something you wish all men realized?

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“I’m introverted until I find people worth extroverting for.” ~Ameé Quiriconi

Connect with One Broken Mom hosted by Ameé Quiriconi on Facebook.
Find Ameé on Instagram.
Listen to One Broken Mom on your favorite podcast platform or visit
www.ameequiriconi.com

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 125, Living In Alignment With Who You Are

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Living In Alignment With Who You Are Episode 125, December 19, 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by warrior, Brandon Boucher, to share some of his experiences as a combat veteran, activist, and healer, while he’s created a life in alignment with who he truly is instead of what the world expected him to be.

“No good change ever comes out of anger. We need to transmute it.” ~ Brandon Boucher

Brandon openly shares experiences growing up, serving in the U.S. Navy in Afghanistan, seeing pure evil, overcoming PTSD, the Modern Mystery School, and being of service to others.

Topics Covered Include:

  • Expectations of obligation and duty.
  • Do expectations feel good, bad, indifferent?
  • Tell me about life when you weren’t living in alignment?
  • Expectations of alcoholism.
  • Serving in Afghanistan
  • Challenges hearing “Thank you for your service.”
  • Experience as an activist at Standing Rock in North Dakota.
  • What are some of the expectations of being an activist that you break?
  • How was your transition from Afghanistan to being active in causes that fulfill you?
  • Making PTSD vanish.
  • Living a life of service.

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“The veteran community is a microcosm of the world.” ~Brandon BoucherL

Connect with Brandon on Facebook.
His new website will be live soon, KBHealing.com. 
Brandon is also Director of Volunteer Engagement at Veteran Service Corps

Catch the prior show about The Modern Mystery School.

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 124, Buddy Your Buddy

Buddy Your Buddy Episode 124, December 11, 2018

Seeking Human KindnessThis week Andy Grant is joined by coach, mentor, speaker, and U.S Marine Veteran, Buddy Carchide, to talk about how he’s encouraging people to “Buddy Up” to better deal with pain, mental health, and the struggles of life.

“We are all one people. We are all buddies in this world.” ~ Buddy Carchide

Buddy is a self-described, “Simple guy, fighting the good fight and enjoying the grind of everyday life. Helping people through affirmation, enthusiasm, motivation, and support.”

Serving overseas made Buddy realize how the other half of the world lived and made him grateful for all we have in the US, but also lead to problems with anxiety, depression, and PTSD once he was back home. Buddy shares his story and how he’s now working to spread more love and kindness in the world.

Topics Covered Include:

    • What does Buddy Your Buddy mean?
    • Have you always been everybody’s buddy?
    • Was there one experience that brought this shift?
    • Is there one encompassing message in what you do?
    • Replacing “Pay it Forward” with “Buddying Up.”
    • The boomerang theory.
    • Buddy’s post-service mental health challenges.
    • Being a “tough guy” AND asking for help.
    • Buddy’s three favorite tools for dealing with stress and anxiety.
    • Discerning which thoughts serve you and which ones don’t.
    • I appreciate you.
    • Where do you want to see this buddy your buddy movement go?

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“I went from feeling like a superhero to a super zero.” ~Buddy Carchide

Learn more at BuddyYourBuddy.com

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Catch Buddy’s prior appearance Talking about President Trump.

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 113, Do The Clothes Make The Man?

Do The Clothes Make The Man? with Ty Cutner Episode 113, October 2, 2018

Sharp dressedThis week Andy Grant is joined by Ty Cutner, founder of the Well Dressed Academy, to discuss the social and psychological benefits of being a well-dressed man. He’ll share how changing his image, changed his life.

“’Cause every girl crazy ’bout a sharp dressed man” ~ZZ Top

If you don’t present the best, you can’t perform your best.

Five years ago, Ty Cutner was working a job he hated, approaching 30, wasting his nights on Xbox, was a new father with a 2-year-old son and then found out his girlfriend was cheating on him. He took an honest look in the mirror and asked: “how did I let myself get to this point?”

To begin changing his life, he changed his image – how he dressed.

Topics Covered Include:

  • Have you always been into fashion and well dressed?
  • Tell me about your old life?
  • What prompted you to change?
  • What’s your new life like?
  • What were the first things you noticed as you dressed better?
  • What is the Well Dressed Academy?
  • What has been the biggest surprise to you from dressing sharp?
  • What sort of transformations have your clients had?
  • What types of men are coming to you for help?
  • Can you be well dressed and not go broke?
  • Is there one simple thing that any man can do to look better?
  • What’s next for the Well Dressed Academy?

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“Who do you want to be? How does that person look?” ~Ty Cutner

Learn more at WellDressedAcademy.com

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 112, Faces of Fortitude

Faces of Fortitude with Mariangela Abeo Episode 112, September 25, 2018

1-800-273-8255This week Andy Grant is joined by photographer, producer, and mental health advocate, Mariangela “M” Abeo, to talk about suicide, depression and her portrait project, Faces of Fortitude, which is tackling the stigma around discussing mental health by giving people affected by suicide a safe space to share their stories.

“Suicide is a hot coal we don’t know what to do with, and we can’t hold for too long.” ~M

M’s Faces of Fortitude projected has interviewed and photographed 100 people impacted by suicide and mental illness in some way and has a simple, yet powerful goal, of turning trauma into something else and making a space for healing.

Topics Covered Include:

  • What is Faces of Fortitude?
  • What prompted it’s creation?
  • What sort of feedback have you gotten with this project?
  • Tell me how your sessions work?
  • What is your vetting process?
  • Do people see this as glamorizing suicide?
  • What’s been your reaction to some of the stories people share with you?
  • How do the men differ from women?
  • What are you proudest about regarding Faces of Fortitude?
  • What are your plans for this project?
  • What helped you the most?
  • How can people get involved or support this?

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“People laughing through their tears are my favorite pictures.” ~M Abeo

Learn more at FacesOfFortitude.com

Connect on Facebook or Instragram

See Andy’s book: Still Here: How to Succeed in Life After Failing at Suicide.

Get help: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 110, Preventing Workplace Violence

Preventing Workplace Violence Episode 110, September 11, 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by attorney, Stuart Silverman, to discuss workplace and school violence. Stuart is a founding member of the Workplace Violence Prevention Institute, and he believes mass shootings can be reverse engineered and prevented.

“Reverse engineer the events, and you’ll see warning signs – and they are preventable.” ~Stuart Silverman

Stuart Silverman has been practicing law in South Florida for over twenty-five years. His practice focuses on labor & employment, litigation and business, and corporate law. His extensive litigation experience includes claims involving underage, race, and sex discrimination, wage and hour claims, ADA, and FMLA claims, whistleblower claims, and much more.

Stuart is also one of the founding members of the Workplace Violence Prevention Institute, which is a resource/Think Tank for preventing violence in schools and companies.

Topics Covered Include:

  • Is this a 2nd Amendment issue?
  • How did a labor attorney get involved with workplace violence prevention?
  • What can be done to prevent school shootings?
  • Are companies and schools being more proactive these days?
  • When there is an active shooter going on, there is a failed policy.
  • A few ways companies can prevent workplace violence.
  • What can be done to prevent school shootings?
  • What are some of the warning signs?
  • Have you heard of a shooting that didn’t have any warning signs?
  • Do you find that more metal detectors or weapons at schools make them safer?
  • Any suggestions for students to feel more safe and empowered?
  • What is the Workplace Violence Prevention Institute?
  • How would you know prevention is working?

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“Workplace violence costs employers more than $120 billion each year. Almost 46% of all active shooter situations occur at businesses.” ~WPVI

Read more: The Killer in the Next Cubicle-The tragedy of workplace violence in America and 161 recent employee-on-employee homicides.

WVPI site: WorkplaceViolencePreventionInstitute.org

Connect with WVPI on Facebook and Twitter.

 

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 111, Losing Your Father to Suicide

Losing Your Father to Suicide with Zak Williams Episode 111, September 18, 2018

1-800-273-8255This week Andy Grant is joined by mental health advocate, Zak Williams, for an open talk about depression, mental health and losing his dad to suicide four years ago.

“His pathos was seeking to entertain and please. He felt when he wasn’t doing that; he was not succeeding as a person. …but he was the most successful person I knew.” ~Zak Williams

As part of National Suicide Prevention Month, Andy and Zak discuss being a survivor of suicide, the impact of losing a family member to suicide, and the masks that too many men hide behind when it comes to their mental health.

Topics Covered Include:

  • Was your father’s suicide that something you were concerned about happening or was it a complete shock?
  • Did you have a close relationship with your dad when you were growing up?
  • At what age did you realize your father’s job and lifestyle was different than most other people?
  • Much of your dad’s challenges with addiction was pretty public. How was that for you?
  • The recent documentary, Robin Williams: Come Inside My Head.
  • Did you define success in a different way than your dad did?
  • Did his celebrity make dealing with his death more difficult?
  • Zak’s challenges with depression and anxiety.
  • Have those “what else could I have done thoughts” faded away?
  • Tell us about BringChange2Mind.org
  • What has helped you the most in dealing with depression and anxiety?

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“I think the dynamic is changing for the better in terms of people feeling more comfortable in opening up, but it needs to be a continuous sustained effort.” ~Zak Williams

Learn more at: BringChange2Mind.org

See Andy’s book: Still Here: How to Succeed in Life After Failing at Suicide.

Get help: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

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