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Real Men Feel: Ep. 143, Six Steps To Your Greatness

Share your smile

Six Steps To Your Greatness Episode 143, August 13, 2019

Retired UFC fighter, transformation coach and personal trainer, Clifford Starks, joins us to help you uncover the greatness within and shares his six steps to greatness. Are you aware of what’s standing between you and your best version of yourself?

“Greatness means being the very best at what you’re gifted in.” ~ Clifford Starks

Clifford crams a ton of inspiration and insight into this interview. He touches on the personal greatness we can all reach, responsibility, accountability, planning, passion, action and much, much more. He also shares his view on failure and that the negative voices we all have in our heads can even rise up loudly when fighting in the octagon.

Topics and Questions Include:

  • Where you always in great shape?
  • What does the greatness within mean to you?
  • (9:20) The six steps to greatness
  • (18:15) What stops most people from reaching their greatness?
  • (20:54) What are your thoughts on failure?
  • (22:42) What did you learn from being a UFC Fighter?
  • (30:49) Is greatness static?
  • (33:49) Can you share a habit, practice, program, or book that has helped you?
  • (37:30) How did you learn what it means to be a man?
  • (41:36) People as mirrors of us
  • (42:19) What is one thing you wish more men knew?
  • (44:13) What are you proud of?
  • (48:48) What are you looking forward to?

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“Flow doesn’t mean suffering doesn’t come with it. There will be suffering in life.” ~ Clifford Starks

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Explore the books Clifford recommended, Think and Grow Rich and Psycho-Cybernetics.

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 142, Regular Guy Chat with Al

Men Chatting

Regular Guy Chat with Al Episode 142, August 6, 2019

Self-described “regular guy,” Al Flemming, joins us to talk about life, fatherhood, happiness and being a man. Al messaged the show about wanting to hear more stories from everyday guys. Guys living extraordinary lives and the struggles they’ve overcome.

“I want to be happy in life. As long as I continue to do that and be a naturally loving person, then I’m a success.” ~ Al Flemming

Al’s message to the show: “I think shows with regular guys -people who don’t have books, clients, websites (or ones that are not updated ) etc.- yet still get up and keep going everyday. Regular guys who have stories that are inspiring because they could just fade into non-existence but that just keep going. That fascinates me and inspires me. I just wonder why those guys (yes guys like me) are not highlighted. Not everyone’s “greatness” includes books, social media presence, etc.”

Topics and Questions Include:

  • Why did you reach out?
  • Attention versus being of service.
  • Importance of being a dad.
  • Al’s experience as a son.
  • What Al has overcome.
  • How did you learn what it means to be a man?
  • What is a great dad?
  • What does ‘regular guy’ mean to you?
  • Can you share a habit, practice, program, or book that has helped you?
  • Is life easy or hard?
  • What is one thing you wish more men knew?
  • What keeps you up at night?
  • What are you proud of?

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“If I’m not willing to be open and honest about this, then I don’t need it in my life.” ~ Al Flemming

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Explore the books Al mentioned, The Four Agreements and The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck.

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 141, Do Politics & Men’s Work Mix?

If a lie is repeated enough it becomes politics

Do Politics & Men’s Work Mix? Episode 141, July 30, 2019

Curator of TheMensSchool, Jan Hutchins, returns to the Real Men Feel to talk about political discourse, men’s work, hallucinations, division, responsibility, and the shit hitting the fan. TheMensSchool is a public Facebook group with over 4,000 members. It is a learning community cultivating the deep sacred masculine in us all (clear, compassionate, cooperative, secure).

“It is part of being a man of the world to play a role in the experience you’re having. To take responsibility for your world and your life.” ~ Jan Hutchins

Jan is two-time prior guest of the show and we begin by revisiting a previous topic; Is life easy or hard?
Then we move on to the subject many try to avoid but has become too dominant an aspect of our culture – politics. Specifically, what prompted him to begin sharing political posts in TheMensSchool and what the reaction has been. The conversation takes us to hallucinations, trauma, chaos, and how best to chill through the showman’s shit storm.

Topics and Questions Include:

  • Revisiting, Is life easy or hard?
  • Suffering.
  • What made you decide to first share political articles and opinions?
  • What’s the response been?
  • Why Jan likes push-back.
  • Why have we become so jaded and cynical?
  • Is this extreme divisiveness the new normal or an aberration?
  • Do you have any fears or hopes around a Trump reelection?
  • A viral response from Trump supporters.
  • What might unwind the tension?
  • The corporate takeover of the U.S.
  • What might prompt the bringing together of people again?
  • Do politics and men’s work go together?
  • What is one thing you wish more men knew?

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“We are living in a pandemic of stress, trauma, and attachment disorder.” ~ Jan Hutchins

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 140, That’s What a Man Does

Ryan Matthews

That’s What a Man Does Episode 140, July 24, 2019

Inspirational speaker, author, combat veteran, and dog trainer, Ryan Matthews, discusses reshaping what a man does by experiencing the healing power of sharing your trauma to grow and help others.

“I had been a boy in a man body for most of my life.” ~ Ryan Matthews

Ryan shares a wide range of experiences ranging from being a drug dealer to training elite Army K-9s, to multiple near-death experiences, and realizing his tough guy, machismo act wasn’t really him. This episode is chock full of authenticity, awareness, vulnerability, and dogs.

Topics and Questions Include:

  • The desire to isolate.
  • How did you get started training dogs?
  • Having a million-dollar business, but feeling like a failure.
  • You’ve had multiple near-death experiences, were they all variations on the same lesson?
  • Why share your pain?
  • How did you open up to your feminine side?
  • Ryan’s song, “That’s What a Man Does.”
  • What are the benefits of being authentic?
  • Why do so many men resist being seen as vulnerable?
  • Life lessons from dogs.
  • Tell us about your first TEDx Talk experience, “Overcoming PTSD Using Dog Training Techniques.”
  • The RCTR formula.
  • Do you prefer hanging out with dogs or people?
  • What is one thing you wish more men knew?
  • What are you proud of?

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“What I thought made me a man, wasn’t necessarily true.” ~ Ryan Matthews

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Check out Ryan’s books, The Canine Connection: A Training Guide for Owners who Love their Dogs and The Art of Dog Training: Training Secrets From Combat Canine Handler Turned Celebrity Dog Trainer

See Andy’s book, Homer the Hound Dog’s Guide to Happiness: 6 Life Lessons I Learned From My Dog!

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 139, Removing our Emotional Barriers

Removing our Emotional Barriers Episode 139, July 9, 2019

Coach, Matt Dillingham, shares his insights around being willing to look deeper into ourselves and what to do with what you find.

“We are taught to resist what we feel and only express ourselves through anger. e posterchild for avoiding vulnerability. I avoided it at all costs.” ~Matt Dillingham

In the show, Matt shares a technique that eliminated his fear of flying and that he uses to help his client process their emotions.

Topics and Questions Include:

  • What is the biggest reason men commit the majority of crimes?
  • Is expressing emotions natural?
  • Were you ever called weak or a pussy?
  • The problem with focusing only on mindset
  • Is not expressing emotions something men are taught?
  • Are the dangers of a boy crying different than for a man?
  • As an emotional man, how did you end up in the Marines?
  • Why have men been told it is wrong to be vulnerable?
  • How do we remove our emotional barriers?
  • The secret of life
  • How do we best deal with our emotions?
  • What is one thing you wish more men knew?
  • What are you looking forward to?

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“Feelings drive behavior.” ~ Matt Dillingham

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Check out the book, Feelings Drive Behaviour

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 138, Real Men Talk

Man in waves

Real Men Talk Episode 138, July 6, 2019

Host, Andy Grant, explains where the show has been for the last three months and the importance of men feeling and talking.

It may seem strange that an episode called Real Men Talk doesn’t feature any guests, but I’m here to talk to you this time.

“Just because you think it, doesn’t mean it’s true. And just because it’s in your head, doesn’t mean it’s you.” ~Andy Grant

Andy talks about where the show has been for the past three months and his descent into darkness.

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 137, The Price of Heartbreak

The Price of Heartbreak Episode 137, April 10, 2019

Author, Rick Sharpe, joins us to discuss his experience with depression following the end of a relationship and discovering the power in his own vulnerability. Note: Rick joined us from Dubai and the video froze a few times, but the audio is solid.

“I was the posterchild for avoiding vulnerability. I avoided it at all costs.” ~Rick Sharpe

Rick’s book and this conversation focuses on discovering the power in vulnerability as well as learning the difference between reacting and responding.

Topics and Questions Include:

  • What has you living in Dubai?
  • What prompted your book, The Price of Heartbreak?
  • Was this your first breakup?
  • What was your healing process like?
  • Discovering Brené Brown.
  • Where did you learn it was wrong to be vulnerable?
  • What was the goal of the book?
  • What’s the best thing that has happened from writing, The Price of Heartbreak?
  • Were you afraid to know yourself?
  • What stands out as a key to your growth and healing?
  • Some men respond to heartbreak by giving up on relationships entirely, is that something you considered?

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“I had to learn to love how I am. That was a huge leap of faith.” ~ Rick Sharpe

Learn more about Rick at Rick-Sharpe.com

Check out Rick’s book, The Price of Heartbreak: Healing is mindfully feeling

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 136, Living a Confident Life

You got this!

Living a Confident Life Episode 136, March 26, 2019

Coach, educator, and podcaster, Dennis Sumlin, joins us to discuss harnessing your spirituality to master your inner game and take the field.

Confidence coach and blind man are not two phrases that go together often, but Dennis Sumlin is a powerful example of a man living beyond any label.

“In order to be a confident man from the core, we must take ownership of our feelings and choices.” ~Dennis Sumlin

Being a man requires confidence. Dennis believes embracing our emotions and spirit are key to creating self confidence.

Topics and Questions Include:

  • What is confidence?
  • Denis discusses three types of confidence: situational, self-esteem, and core confidence.
  • How can someone tell whether they have confidence or not?
  • Are some people naturally confident?
  • Is your own confidence something you had to work at?
  • How has being blind impacted your confidence?
  • How is harnessing your spirituality part of confidence?
  • Where does taking ownership of our feelings and choices come in?
  • Does healthy confidence require humility?
  • Are there some common habits people fall into that lower their confidence?
  • What are some basic tools to help develop more confidence?
  • What are some typical blocks you see to men exploring their spirituality?

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“Society challenged my perceptions of myself, my masculinity too.” ~ Dennis Sumlin

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 135, How to Dominate with Your Heart and Soul

Heart-centered

How to Dominate with Your Heart and Soul Episode 135, March 19, 2019

Dov Baron is recognized as one of the top 100 leadership speakers and corporate cultural strategist. He joins us to discuss purpose-driven leadership and the importance of aligning heart, soul, and mind.

The most important question we will ever ask ourselves is: “Why Am I Here? Followed by: What am I going to do about it?” ~Dov Baron

Dov works with CEOs and executives to grow their businesses by growing themselves. I was happily surprised by Dov’s depth of spirituality and personal growth experiences and knowledge, including quantum physics and Kabbalah. This conversation gave me new hope for corporate America.

Topics and Questions Include:

  • What is purpose?
  • What is purpose in regards to business?
  • What are the benefits of a purpose-driven organization?
  • How do you define leadership?
  • Resistance, ego, and vulnerability.
  • Skepticism vs pessimism.
  • How did you get involved in purpose and meaning work?
  • What is the meaning of life?
  • Breaching the bias.
  • What is the core of heart-centered domination?

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“At its basic, business is human. It is relationships.” ~ Dov Baron

Learn more about Dov at FullMontyLeadership.com

Contact Dov – dov@dovbaron.com

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 134, Introduction to the Live The Hero Philosophy

Heroism Mindset

Introduction to the Live The Hero Philosophy Episode 134, March 12, 2019

Returning to Real Men Feel, Anthony Simeone is a writer, speaker, and self-described “heroism advocate” with over two decades of experience in the practical application of literature, philosophy, psychology, and other disciplines. His the Live the Hero philosophy offers us a “life path” for use in overcoming obstacles.

“Heroic tales have always been meant to be inspirational as well as entertaining.” ~Anthony Simeone

This conversation is in response to a series of articles Anthony wrote for the GoodMenProject.com about his Live The Hero philosophy.

Heroism is a Mindset, not a Moment
Cultivate a Heroic Mindset
Overcome Obstacles with the CALL Cycle
Heroic Life is All About Motion

Topics and Questions Include:

  • What kicked off your interest in heroes and this mindset?
  • What do you mean by Heroism is a mindset, not a moment?
  • Is this just an ego trip?
  • Are heroes perfect?
  • What are some ways anyone can create or live a heroic mindset?
  • What is the negativity bias?
  • The rugged individual mindset
  • How does the heroic mindset deal with life’s inherent lack of certainty?
  • How do heroes overcome obstacles?
  • Growth mindset vs fixed mindset
  • Can anyone develop a heroic mindset?
  • Why doesn’t everyone embrace this mindset?
  • What is the end result of living life with this mindset?

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“That is the lesson of hero stories: no matter your situation, you have the power to uplift yourself and others and strive to make things better..” ~ Anthony Simeone

Learn more about Anthony at LiveTheHero.com

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The Hero's Journey