Real Men Feel: Ep. 143, Six Steps To Your Greatness

Six Steps To Your Greatness Episode 143, August 13, 2019

Retired UFC fighter, transformation coach and personal trainer, Clifford Starks, joins us to help you uncover the greatness within and shares his six steps to greatness. Are you aware of what’s standing between you and your best version of yourself?

“Greatness means being the very best at what you’re gifted in.” ~ Clifford Starks

Clifford crams a ton of inspiration and insight into this interview. He touches on the personal greatness we can all reach, responsibility, accountability, planning, passion, action and much, much more. He also shares his view on failure and that the negative voices we all have in our heads can even rise up loudly when fighting in the octagon.

Topics and Questions Include:

  • Where you always in great shape?
  • What does the greatness within mean to you?
  • (9:20) The six steps to greatness
  • (18:15) What stops most people from reaching their greatness?
  • (20:54) What are your thoughts on failure?
  • (22:42) What did you learn from being a UFC Fighter?
  • (30:49) Is greatness static?
  • (33:49) Can you share a habit, practice, program, or book that has helped you?
  • (37:30) How did you learn what it means to be a man?
  • (41:36) People as mirrors of us
  • (42:19) What is one thing you wish more men knew?
  • (44:13) What are you proud of?
  • (48:48) What are you looking forward to?


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“Flow doesn’t mean suffering doesn’t come with it. There will be suffering in life.” ~ Clifford Starks

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 142, Regular Guy Chat with Al

Regular Guy Chat with Al Episode 142, August 6, 2019

Self-described “regular guy,” Al Flemming, joins us to talk about life, fatherhood, happiness and being a man. Al messaged the show about wanting to hear more stories from everyday guys. Guys living extraordinary lives and the struggles they’ve overcome.

“I want to be happy in life. As long as I continue to do that and be a naturally loving person, then I’m a success.” ~ Al Flemming

Al’s message to the show: “I think shows with regular guys -people who don’t have books, clients, websites (or ones that are not updated ) etc.- yet still get up and keep going everyday. Regular guys who have stories that are inspiring because they could just fade into non-existence but that just keep going. That fascinates me and inspires me. I just wonder why those guys (yes guys like me) are not highlighted. Not everyone’s “greatness” includes books, social media presence, etc.”

Topics and Questions Include:

  • Why did you reach out?
  • Attention versus being of service.
  • Importance of being a dad.
  • Al’s experience as a son.
  • What Al has overcome.
  • How did you learn what it means to be a man?
  • What is a great dad?
  • What does ‘regular guy’ mean to you?
  • Can you share a habit, practice, program, or book that has helped you?
  • Is life easy or hard?
  • What is one thing you wish more men knew?
  • What keeps you up at night?
  • What are you proud of?


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“If I’m not willing to be open and honest about this, then I don’t need it in my life.” ~ Al Flemming

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 138, Real Men Talk

Real Men Talk Episode 138, July 6, 2019

Host, Andy Grant, explains where the show has been for the last three months and the importance of men feeling and talking.

It may seem strange that an episode called Real Men Talk doesn’t feature any guests, but I’m here to talk to you this time.

Just because you think it, doesn’t mean it’s true. And just because it’s in your head, doesn’t mean it’s you.” ~Andy Grant

Andy talks about where the show has been for the past three months and his descent into darkness.


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Real Men Feel: Ep. 137, The Price of Heartbreak

The Price of Heartbreak Episode 137, April 10, 2019

Author, Rick Sharpe, joins us to discuss his experience with depression following the end of a relationship and discovering the power in his own vulnerability. Note: Rick joined us from Dubai and the video froze a few times, but the audio is solid.

“I was the posterchild for avoiding vulnerability. I avoided it at all costs.” ~Rick Sharpe

Rick’s book and this conversation focuses on discovering the power in vulnerability as well as learning the difference between reacting and responding.

Topics and Questions Include:

  • What has you living in Dubai?
  • What prompted your book, The Price of Heartbreak?
  • Was this your first breakup?
  • What was your healing process like?
  • Discovering Brené Brown.
  • Where did you learn it was wrong to be vulnerable?
  • What was the goal of the book?
  • What’s the best thing that has happened from writing, The Price of Heartbreak?
  • Were you afraid to know yourself?
  • What stands out as a key to your growth and healing?
  • Some men respond to heartbreak by giving up on relationships entirely, is that something you considered?


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“I had to learn to love how I am. That was a huge leap of faith.” ~ Rick Sharpe

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 136, Living a Confident Life

Living a Confident Life Episode 136, March 26, 2019

Coach, educator, and podcaster, Dennis Sumlin, joins us to discuss harnessing your spirituality to master your inner game and take the field.

Confidence coach and blind man are not two phrases that go together often, but Dennis Sumlin is a powerful example of a man living beyond any label.

“In order to be a confident man from the core, we must take ownership of our feelings and choices.” ~Dennis Sumlin

Being a man requires confidence. Dennis believes embracing our emotions and spirit are key to creating self confidence.

Topics and Questions Include:

  • What is confidence?
  • Denis discusses three types of confidence: situational, self-esteem, and core confidence.
  • How can someone tell whether they have confidence or not?
  • Are some people naturally confident?
  • Is your own confidence something you had to work at?
  • How has being blind impacted your confidence?
  • How is harnessing your spirituality part of confidence?
  • Where does taking ownership of our feelings and choices come in?
  • Does healthy confidence require humility?
  • Are there some common habits people fall into that lower their confidence?
  • What are some basic tools to help develop more confidence?
  • What are some typical blocks you see to men exploring their spirituality?


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“Society challenged my perceptions of myself, my masculinity too.” ~ Dennis Sumlin

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 135, How to Dominate with Your Heart and Soul

How to Dominate with Your Heart and Soul Episode 135, March 19, 2019

Dov Baron is recognized as one of the top 100 leadership speakers and corporate cultural strategist. He joins us to discuss purpose-driven leadership and the importance of aligning heart, soul, and mind.

The most important question we will ever ask ourselves is: “Why Am I Here? Followed by: What am I going to do about it?” ~Dov Baron

Dov works with CEOs and executives to grow their businesses by growing themselves. I was happily surprised by Dov’s depth of spirituality and personal growth experiences and knowledge, including quantum physics and Kabbalah. This conversation gave me new hope for corporate America.

Topics and Questions Include:

  • What is purpose?
  • What is purpose in regards to business?
  • What are the benefits of a purpose-driven organization?
  • How do you define leadership?
  • Resistance, ego, and vulnerability.
  • Skepticism vs pessimism.
  • How did you get involved in purpose and meaning work?
  • What is the meaning of life?
  • Breaching the bias.
  • What is the core of heart-centered domination?


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At its basic, business is human. It is relationships.” ~ Dov Baron

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 134, Introduction to the Live The Hero Philosophy

Introduction to the Live The Hero Philosophy Episode 134, March 12, 2019

Returning to Real Men Feel, Anthony Simeone is a writer, speaker, and self-described “heroism advocate” with over two decades of experience in the practical application of literature, philosophy, psychology, and other disciplines. His the Live the Hero philosophy offers us a “life path” for use in overcoming obstacles.

Heroic tales have always been meant to be inspirational as well as entertaining.” ~Anthony Simeone

This conversation is in response to a series of articles Anthony wrote for the GoodMenProject.com about his Live The Hero philosophy.

Heroism is a Mindset, not a Moment
Cultivate a Heroic Mindset
Overcome Obstacles with the CALL Cycle
Heroic Life is All About Motion

Topics and Questions Include:

  • What kicked off your interest in heroes and this mindset?
  • What do you mean by Heroism is a mindset, not a moment?
  • Is this just an ego trip?
  • Are heroes perfect?
  • What are some ways anyone can create or live a heroic mindset?
  • What is the negativity bias?
  • The rugged individual mindset
  • How does the heroic mindset deal with life’s inherent lack of certainty?
  • How do heroes overcome obstacles?
  • Growth mindset vs fixed mindset
  • Can anyone develop a heroic mindset?
  • Why doesn’t everyone embrace this mindset?
  • What is the end result of living life with this mindset?


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That is the lesson of hero stories: no matter your situation, you have the power to uplift yourself and others and strive to make things better..” ~ Anthony Simeone

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The Hero's Journey

Real Men Feel: Ep. 133, Feeling The Fears

Feeling The Fears Episode 133, March 9, 2019

A heavy dose of sharing with Andy as I share from my heart about terror, emotional tunnel vision, and the challenges I’ve chosen to face this year. Real Men Feel isn’t just a slogan or catch phrase, it is how I live.

“Life is amazing and life is on your side.” ~Andy Grant

I did this as an impromptu video on Facebook the morning of Friday, March 8, 2019. I recorded and posted it. I didn’t watch until 24 hours later and decided to release as a podcast episode as an example of man willing to openly share his feelings.

Topics and Questions Include:

  • I’ve been crying half the days I’ve been home since vacation.
  • Feeling the Fears
  • A debilitating Terror
  • 3 Challenging Things on my plate for this year: Kabballah, Ritual Master, Mount Kilimanjaro
  • Emotional tunnel vision
  • Lineage of suicide
  • What if…


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“I literally was made for this.” ~ Andy Grant


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Real Men Feel: Ep. 130, The Emotions of Vacations

The Emotions of Vacations Episode 130, February 24, 2019

After returning from a trip to Israel and Jordan, Andy Grant reflects on the emotions that can show up during and after vacations.

Everybody loves vacations, right?

Apparently not, since 47% of Americans didn’t take all of their vacation time in 2017 and 21% left more than five available vacation days up for grabs.

Above the Treasury at Petra

Above the iconic Treasury at Petra, Jordan.

My wife and I recently returned home for a two week trip to the Middle East, spending one week in Israel and the next week in Jordan. The rock-carved city of Petra was the main reason behind the trip. But both countries had a lot to offer and warrant repeat visits.

We had a fantastic time full of ancient sites, sacred places, and friendly people. I learned a lot about the religion and politics of the area and found I had many misconceptions about the Middle East from growing up in the US. My time in Israel was probably the most intellectually and politically challenging trip I’ve taken. We talked with Arabs, Jews, Christians, Muslims, Palestinians, Isralies, and Jordanians.

Toward the final days, I noticed moments of sadness that things were winding down.
The sadness was mixed with a feeling that two weeks was long enough and I was ready to return home. I recalled years earlier when it was normal for me to feel depressed with days remaining of a vacation because I so dreaded my return to daily life.

Some people like vacations of sitting on the beach and doing nothing. I prefer active holidays where I do things I don’t usually do, especially when I worked as a cube dweller for corporate America.

When I tried to just lay on the beach in the past, my thoughts would turn negative. I’d focus on all the things I didn’t like instead of relaxing. Then I’d drink to remove those thoughts. That worked in the short term, but if I just wanted to drink, I could do that at home much cheaper, so I quickly stopped those sort of trips too.

I’ve visited such places as Machu Pichu, Stonehenge, and Easter Island. I’ve been white water rafting, rappelling, and hiking in Europe, South America, and Africa. A staycation can be nice, but my favorite vacations are ones when I need another vacation to recover from them.

Floating in the Dead Sea

Floating in the Dead Sea

Even today, I can recall being in the jungles of Belize in 2005, but feeling very down because the following Monday I’d be back at work. It was a time that I thought I hated my job, and sometimes my life. Yet, a few days prior, I was enjoying myself and life.

These realizations helped me learn the power of being present.
When fully present, I felt better. I wondered why was it that I was time traveling in my thinking.

Why was I ignoring the fantastic experiences I was having to jump forward to my return to the mundane?

I decided that since I could be full of energy and joy on a vacation when I was present and focused on what I was doing, that I would do my best to live like I was on vacation. All the time.

I did pretty well at that for a long time. Treating each day like it was new. Looking for things that were unusual, special, and fun. If those weren’t apparent, I find a way to bring those elements to what I was doing.

The Western Wall

The Western Wall, or Wailing Wall, in the Old City of Jerusalem.

So as I noticed some sadness as this trip was winding down, I explored what exactly I was feeling sad about.
I was going to miss the people. We were a group of 13 in Israel and then 16 in Jordan. I liked my instant family of global citizens traveling, sharing, dining together for long days full of once in a lifetime experiences.

Back home, I often work in isolation. I sometimes forget to admit to myself that I actually like people. I was going to miss having a guide take me to amazing new places every day. I was going to miss having every day planned by someone else when I just needed to show up and be marveled. I would miss walking into restaurants and recognizing a dozen faces. There was no responsibility or stress. Just being present and amazed.

Realizing that I was sad over what was ending as opposed to what I was returning to, made me smile.


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Real Men Feel: Ep. 129, The Importance of Community

The Importance of Community Episode 129, January 29, 2019

This week, Andy Grant is joined by entrepreneur, mindset coach, and podcaster, Tony Grebmeier, to discuss his path to clarity and the importance of community. Tony’s mission is to create a community where entrepreneurs know they can achieve anything they want despite their past.

“Community is the most important thing and we don’t talk about it.” ~Tony Grebmeier

Tony shares his lowest point, the knock that changed his life, and his journey to a new way of thinking. Thinking that includes gratitude, open-mindedness, being teachable, and has the goal of happiness.

The journey to self-fulfillment was not easy for Tony. He almost lost it all in 2008 after years of struggling with drug and alcohol addiction. Facing the near destruction of his marriage and the sad realization that he was negatively affecting his children’s lives, Tony made the decision that year to get sober, and he has stayed sober ever since. As he got clean, he also became clear about his vision to help others find their passion and achieve more.

Topics Covered Include:

  • Life as a suicidal alcoholic, riddled in debt
  • How did you rebound from such a dark time?
  • What makes community so important?
  • What is the GROWTH mindset?
  • Journalling
  • What does hitting the snooze button do?
  • Tony’s core fundamental beliefs
  • The New England Patriots
  • Forgiveness
  • The BeFulfilled podcast
  • What is your definition of fulfillment?
  • Impacting lives and being of service
  • Free course at DrainersAndDrivers.com

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There are patterns we have that we don’t see. We need others to call us out on them. ~ Tony Grebmeier


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Real Men Feel with Tony Grebmeier