Real Men Feel: Ep. 105, Developing Self-Confidence with Darnell Donerson

Developing Self-Confidence Episode 105, August 7, 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by writer, Darnell Donerson, to share his very public quest for building his confidence and overcoming negative thinking. Andy first met Darnell thanks to his debut article for GoodMenProject, Developing My Confidence.

“I got fed up with myself. Tired of being the victim.” ~Darnell Donerson

After years of struggling with his confidence, Darnell decided to turn his life around. Now he hopes to be a voice to help and inspire others. See Danell’s column on GoodMenProject.

Topics Covered Include:

  • What lead you to believe you had a problem with confidence?
  • Battling negativity and self-judgment.
  • How was growing up for you?
  • What sort of myths have you come across regarding men and confidence?
  • How immigrants see America.
  • Was there one main reason you wanted to feel more confident?
  • What made you decide to start your blog?
  • The power of setting goals.
  • The feedback Darnell’s received to his writing.
  • Anything come as surprisingly easy or difficult?
  • What are some words you used to use to describe yourself?
  • What about now?
  • What are you looking forward to?

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“Comparison is the thief of joy.” ~Theodore Roosevelt

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 104, Men and Postnatal Depression with Darren Horne

Men and Postnatal Depression Episode 104, July 31 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by leadership and communications consultant, Darren Horne, to share his call to adventure including postnatal depression and being a dad. Fatherhood isn’t always a magical and loving experience from the get-go. Postnatal, or postpartum, depression can hit men as well as women.

“Our parents did not bring us into the world to work 40 – 50 hours a week doing a job we hate.” ~Darren Horne

Darren shares how he tried to avoid his depression, as well as all the tools that helped, overcome it. Despite the subject matter, this is an upbeat conversation full of passion and zest for life. See Darren’s column on GoodMenProject.

Topics Covered Include:

  • What is postnatal depression?
  • How common is this for men?
  • Had you ever heard of it or been warned about it?
  • How did you deal with your postnatal depression?
  • Since you’ve opened up about it have you met more men who’ve experienced it too?
  • The pain and grief of a miscarriage.
  • The many gifts coming out of challenges.
  • Going through a divorce and being more resilient.
  • Seeing life as a computer game.
  • We live in a society that makes money off our unhappiness.
  • The meaning of life.
  • Darren’s book for teens.
  • What does your vasectomy have to do with leadership?

 


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“We are the victim of a society that makes us stay safe in a grey and ordinary world.” ~Darren Horne

Darren’s book: Level Up Your Teens

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 103, Men Engaging in Difficult Conversations with Tracy Martino

Men Engaging in Difficult Conversation Episode 103, July 24, 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by Leadership Consultant and bestselling author, Tracy Martino, to talk about the importance for men to tap into their Heart Intelligence and the triggers that can make understanding our emotions so challenging. It’s Tracy’s mission to help people co-create relationships through alignment, connection, and trust.

“For men, I think it’s crucial for them to learn why it’s important to create a safe space to have difficult conversations and feel free to access their Heart Intelligence to have authentic conversations.” ~Tracy Martino

This is a compelling and wide-ranging discussion on the science of the brain, heart, and intuition and using them all to enhance trust, engagement, and communication.

Topics Covered Include:

  • Who/what is HeartMath?
  • What is coherence?
  • What is so vital about authenticity?
  • Conversational blindspots
  • What does creating a safe space mean?
  • What is conversational intelligence?
  • What are triggers?
  • The SCARF model (Status, Certainty, Autonomy, Relatedness, and Fairness)
  • How can we get more in touch with our heart?
  • What is the toll for men not being in touch with their hearts?

 


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“Heart Disease is #1 killer for men. It is rooted in men not coming from their heart center.” ~Tracy Martino

Tracy’s website ExecutiveReturn.com

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 102, MindBody Mastery with Dane Dormio

MindBody Mastery Episode 102, July 17, 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by writer, martial artist, and MindBody Mastery Coach, Dane Dormio, to discuss his long journey of growth and discovery through internal martial arts. He also shares insights from recently spending eight months in Nepal.

“The Universe rewards hard work, but not always in ways you expect.” ~Dane Dormio

A fascinating discussion ranging from Teenage Ninja Mutant Turtles to informational and energetic hygiene. 

MindBody Mastery is the practice of self-regulation for the purpose of nurturing and sustaining an optimal experience of life, a condition brought about by maintaining high personal standards of energetic and informational hygiene and the habits to support them.

Topics Covered Include:

  • What do you mean by internal martial arts?
  • When did you first get into martial arts?
  • As a child, did martial arts give you an experience of your spirituality?
  • What was the inspiration for your MindBody Mastery Academy?
  • What was behind your spending eight months in Nepal?
  • Getting Things Done.
  • The Universal Theory of Information.
  • Challenges to setting goals and achieving them.
  • The accelerating pace of change.
  • Living life like it is your last day, or like you’ll live forever?
  • Advice for men seeking their spiritual awakening.

 


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“Coaching is helping people move forward and self-actualize.” ~Dane Dormio

Check out some of the books mentioned in the show.

Learn more about Dane: MindBodyMasteryAcademy.com
ChaiTeaTaiChi.com

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 101, Balancing Wants, Needs, and Dreams

Balancing Wants, Needs, and Dreams Episode 101, July 10, 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by blogger and podcaster, Andrew Davis, to discuss the challenges and frustrations men feel around doing what you have to do rather than doing what you want to do.

This is an engaging conversation covering everything from chronic pain, to lessons from maturity, dealing with change and much more. Whether you are 25 or 75, there are nuggets of wisdom and resonance.

“I only need 51%, that is a winning day for me.” ~Andrew Davis

A big part of being a man means you gotta take a risk. If you believe in yourself, taking your shot isn’t that risky.

Topics Covered Include:

  • How do you balance what you want to do and what you have to do?
  • How would you define your wants vs. your needs?
  • Does what you want to do and have to do ever overlap?
  • How has this affected your view of masculinity?
  • Physical challenges leading to hobbies and creativity.
  • The effect of chronic pain on personal morale.
  • What does your podcast cover?
  • What sort of subjects do you blog about?
  • What makes someone less of a man?
  • What were some of your expectations about being a man when you were growing up?
  • What happens on a bad day?
  • How do deal with ongoing life challenges?
  • What is your big goal or dream?

 


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Real Men Feel: Ep. 100, Looking Back and Looking Forward

Looking Back and Looking Forward Episode 100, July 3, 2018

This week Andy Grant and Appio Hunter gather for the 100th episode of Real Men Feel, sharing their highlights, favorite moments and more from the past 2 1/2 years and share news about the future of Real Men Feel.

“Real Men Feel was created to encourage men to allow for and express all of their emotions.” ~Andy Grant

Real Men Feel began on Tuesday, February 23, 2016, on Blab, a social media platform that didn’t come close to lasting as long as this show has. We wanted to remind men that they are human beings, entitled and capable of a full range of emotions.

Originally the goal was to do a monthly show, but the 2nd episode in March 2016 we decided we were enjoying it more than expected and went for making it weekly. We didn’t have an official guest until episode 6 when author and coach, Nick Breau, joined us for the Power of Joy back on April 5, 2016.

Topics Covered Include:

  • How it all began.
  • Real Men Feel by the numbers.
  • Who’s been on the most?
  • What shows and guests stand out to you?
  • More on MGTOW.
  • The impact the show has had on the hosts.
  • What do you think about the state of Men today and perhaps over the course of this show?
  • Any favorite show or types of shows? Deva and Kimberlee
  • What’s the future look like for Appio?
  • Where is Real Men Feel headed?

 


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“Men are not the Vulcans of Star Trek, that is science fiction. We are not emotionless automatons.” ~Appio Hunter

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 99, The Bound Between Men and Dogs

The Connection Between Men and Dogs Episode 99, June 26, 2018

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant is joined by by Richard Morrell and Sean Higgins to discuss the emotional bonds between men and man’s best friend; touching on everything from unconditional love to grief.

“I wrote about the emotional bond between men and dogs back in May, but knew I had to wait longer before I could possibly speak about it.” ~Andy Grant

This is the article that prompted today’s discussion: Men and Their Dogs

Dogs, unlike perhaps anything else in the typical man’s life, give unconditional love and support. Your dog is ALWAYS glad to see you. Your dog ALWAYS loves you, whether you just yelled at him for eating your favorite sneakers or you’ve spent hours tossing a ball to them. No other living creature gives so much emotion, presence, attention and time to a man like a dog. Your dog will never call you names, go behind your back, or leave you for another owner.

Topics Covered Include:

  • Richard and Andy talk about recently putting dogs down.
  • The intensity of grief around losing a dog.
  • The unconditional love dogs offer.
  • The support of dogs when depressed and suicidal.
  • Have you seen men in your family display more emotion regarding their dog than other people?
  • What do you think is behind your connection to your dogs, as a child or adult?
  • Have you ever been surprised by your grief regarding a pet?
  • Do you think men are encouraged to show emotion related to dogs or is it more that they are discouraged in showing emotion in other areas of life?
  • Why do you think the bond between a man and his dog can be so strong?
  • Was the loss of a dog, in life or on screen, a moment that was ok for the adults in your life to cry over when you were a kid?
  • Anything top of mind that you’ve learned from a dog?
  • Some wild stories involving animal communicators are shared.
  • What do we mean when we say “pulling yourself together?”

 


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Need some science?

Why Are Humans and Dogs So Good Living Together
The Science Behind the Dog and Human Relationship

Andy’s posts about his dog, Sadie:
A Dog Guarantees One of the Best Days of Your Life and One of the Worst
Learning From The Master: My Dog

This is the video that Andy saw of Sadie five years ago and had he and his wife rush to the shelter.

Andy’s book: Homer’s Guide to Happiness: Six Life Lessons I Learned From My Dog
Louise Hay and David Kessler’s book: You Can Heal Your Heart

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 98, Healing the Family Father Wound with Jed Diamond

Healing the Family Father Wound Episode 98, June 19, 2018

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant is joined by one of the world’s leading experts on men’s issues, Jed Diamond, Ph.D.

Jed has been a licensed psychotherapist for over 40 years and is the author of twelve books including Male Menopause and The Irritable Male Syndrome, his newest book tackles what Jed believes is one problem that surpasses all others in its impact on men, women, and society. That book is My Distant Dad: Healing the Family Father Wound.

“Disconnected males, without a strong sense of inner guidance, can become abusive towards women and destructive towards men.” ~Jed Diamond, Ph.D.

The father wound impacts four critical areas of our lives:

  • Our physical health
  • Our emotional health
  • Our relationship health
  • Our social and political health

The effects of growing up without a loving, engaged, father ripple through the generations and contribute to many of the most serious problems we face in our society today including:

  • Drug and alcohol abuse
  • Depression and suicide
  • Teen pregnancy
  • Sexual dysfunction, harassment, and addiction
  • Poverty
  • Divorce
  • Unhappy, loveless, sexless, and lifeless marriages
  • Crime, conflict, and violence
  • Fear and aggression between groups

Topics Covered Include:

  • Besides being a man, what got you to focus on men’s issues?
  • What is a father wound?
  • Can the family father wound by created by a father who is physically absent as well as a father who is emotionally absent?
  • Does anyone not have a father wound?
  • How doe the father wound impact our lives?
  • Does this wound effect only men?
  • What do children need from their father?
  • What are some of the effects of growing up without a present, loving father?
  • Months before the 2016 presidential election, you wrote an article “The Real Reason Donald Trump Will Be Our Next President” can you remind us of those reasons?
  • What has been most beneficial in your healing?

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According to the National Center for Fathering, “More than 20 million children live in a home without the physical presence of a father. Millions more have dads who are physically present, but emotionally absent. If it were classified as a disease, fatherlessness would be an epidemic worthy of attention as a national emergency.”

Read Jed’s latest book: My Distant Dad: Healing the Family Father Wound, published by Lasting Impact Press, an imprint of Connection Victory Publishing Company.

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Connect with Jed at MenAlive.com

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 95, Busting Out of The Man Box with Cameron Conaway

Busting Out of The Man Box with Cameron Conaway Episode 95, May 29, 2018

This week, journalist, poet, and speaker, Cameron Conaway, drops in for a discussion around modern masculinity, art, and his path from mixed martial arts to poetry. Cameron spent nearly a decade training to be a professional mixed martial artist, but while attending college at Penn State Altoona, he fell in love with poetry. To him, poetry was as much about mindful living and the radical pursuit of new perspectives as it was about writing.

Cameron’s sixth book, Man Box: Poems, is available now.

“Ultimate vulnerability. That’s manly.” ~Cameron Conaway

Cameron Conaway’s book “Man Box: Poems” is published by Lasting Impact Press, an imprint of Connection Victory Publishing Company, the sponsor of this episode of Real Men Feel.

Topics Covered Include:

  • How did an interest in mixed martial arts AND poetry unfold?
  • Being told to “man up.”
  • Have you always written poetry?
  • What is the “man box?”
  • How do we bust out?
  • The impact of a meditation about his father.
  • The perception of poetry and sexual orientation.
  • How he got into investigative journalism.
  • Does the Man Box exist in all the different countries and societies he’s visited?
  • Have you always been interested in topics related to masculinity?
  • What’s the response been to your poetry?
  • Can you describe your artistic process?
  • Changes that the 2016 election caused in the book.
  • Cameron also shares a few poems from his book.

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See Cameron Conaway Recite the Featured Poem from His Book ‘Man Box: Poems’

Man Box – Poems illuminates the seemingly insignificant patriarchal forces that manifest into a toxic masculinity capable of damaging lives and our planet.

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You can learn more about Cameron at CameronConaway.com

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Cameron also teaches the #1 rated poetry class on Skillshare.com.

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 94, A Meeting of Minds on MGTOW

A Meeting of Minds on MGTOW Episode 94, May 15, 2018

This week writer and speaker, Anthony Simeone, returns to Real Men Feel to discuss the MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) philosophy with a man who follows it. “Dan” emailed Real Men Feel after hearing Anthony’s prior appearance and requested the opportunity to counter much of what Anthony said about MGTOW, so here we are. Note: This conversation was recorded April 17, 2018

“Marriage is a bad joke. There are better ways to find happiness in life… our central focus is NOT a hatred of women.” ~Dan of MGTOW

The first time we heard of MGTOW was in a piece Anthony wrote earlier this year, Watch Out for Men ‘Goating Their Own Way’. Anthony confesses that he was trying to be provocative and poke at this ideology to garner a reaction. As was the case in the Real Men Feel conversation with MGTOW Universe, Dan was willing and able to step forward and share his experiences with MGTOW without needing to attack anyone.

Topics Covered Include:

  • Dan and Anthony both offer opening statements.
  • What is MGTOW really about?
  • What has the reaction been to Anthony’s posts and interviews?
  • Anthony’s biggest challenge with MGTOW.
  • Finding the middle ground for an open conversation.
  • Red Pill rage.
  • Love is a lie.
  • Is MGTOW saving men’s lives?
  • Is your view of MGTOW different than when you first encountered?

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“Because men are biased toward protecting women, women are biased towards protecting women, no one cares about protecting men.” ~Dan of MGTOW

Watch a video Dan recommends comparing falling in love to smoking crack.

See Andy’s wrap of his MGTOW interaction, Man or Mangina?

Check out Anthony’s writing on GoodMenProject.com

You can learn more about Anthony and his work at livethehero.com.

Explore more on MGTOW at mgtow.com

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