Real Men Feel: Ep. 293, A Women’s Perspective | She’d Hate To Be A Man

March 11, 2023

A Women’s Perspective | She’d Hate To Be A Man Episode 293, March 10, 2023

Some common complaints I hear from men are that they feel disposable, under attack, can’t do anything right, and don’t know what’s expected of them. It may be time for a woman’s perspective on what’s going on between men & women.

My guest, Reverend Leslie Peters RN, is a Curator of Intuitive & Transformational Conversations and a Trauma-Informed and Spiritual Nurse Leader. She’s worked with women for 30 years and told me, “guys can’t win!”

How women react to men is very dependent on their relationship with their fathers in childhood. Was he emotionally unavailable? What did love look like when she was growing up? What unmet needs were created while growing up that she wants a partner to fill?

When we look to others to fill our unmet needs, that relationship is in trouble. Many women say they want an emotionally available man but then experience it and are triggered and upset based on old trauma. It all comes down to trust and safety.

Someone needs to be vulnerable first and start asking critical questions as early in a relationship as possible, to establish honest and safe sharing. Too many people assume their partners know what they need; most have no idea because they haven’t done the inner work. Don’t guess what’s in somebody’s head; ask.

Topics and Questions

  • 1:26 – “I wouldn’t want to be a man in a relationship. You’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t!” 
  • 4:00 – This is not the case for all women or all men.
  • 5:18 – Nobody else can love you enough if you don’t love yourself.
  • 5:58 – The root issue between men and women in relationships.
  • 8:22 – How a dad treats his daughter is how she will expect other men to show love.
  • 10:10 – Can you make it to adulthood without experiencing some level of trauma?
  • 14:15 – Rubber band breathing.
  • 15:58 – What’s your experience with women who say they want men to be sensitive?
  • 17:33 – We are all mirrors of each other.
  • 18:58 – The solution for men and women in relationships.
  • 21:47 – Are men expected to be mind readers?
  • 26:20 – Any tips on starting such intimate conversations?
  • 32:20 – You weren’t a typical RN; tell me about your work in the trenches.
  • 35:37 – Rev Leslie, what’s the best way for people to learn more and connect with you?

“Get comfortable with uncomfortable, vulnerable conversations.”

Rev Leslie Peters


Rev Leslie Peters RN —

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