Being Happily Divorced | Leading With Kindness Episode 291, February 24, 2023
According to the American Psychological Association, approximately 40-50% of first marriages end in divorce. The divorce rate for second marriages is even higher, with about 60-67% ending in divorce.
As a child of divorce, I’ve only known them to be bitter and spiteful. My guest, Skye Michiels, is out to change that.
Skye is a dad, award-winning real estate leader, motivational speaker, and host of The 6AMERS Podcast, which provides inspiration and motivation for developing a healthy mindset, setting goals, and achieving happiness.
As a divorced dad of two, Skye is passionate about promoting positive co-parenting and determined to show divorced couples that a better, healthier, and happier experience is possible when a positive co-parenting relationship exists.
We discuss the shame and guilt of the “leaver” in a divorce, the benefits of positive co-parenting, tips to being happily divorced, and bust the myth of staying together for the kids’ sake.
Topics and Questions
- 1:28 – What does it mean to be very happily divorced?
- 2:49 – Is it possible to have a bad marriage and a good divorce?
- 5:01 – Does being happily divorced mean the entire divorce process was smooth and joyous?
- 8:41 – Is staying together for the kids realistic?
- 11:30 – Andy’s experience as a child of divorce.
- 12:06 – Experience of the leaver. What helps deal with the shame?
- 17:35 – Do things like positive co-parenting and conscious uncoupling mean the bitter divorce is a thing of the past?
- 20:19 – How long did it take from saying I’m leaving to being happily divorced?
- 22:57 – What made you know it was time to end the marriage?
- 24:39 – What are some signs you are not in a great co-parenting situation?
- 28:20 – What are some tips for creating a positive co-parenting relationship?
- 30:10 – Would your partner say you are a great ex-husband?
- 31:17 – Does being divorced turn you off from ever being married again?
- 32:24 – What are some of the biggest challenges for divorced men?
- 33:44 – What does leading with kindness mean?
- 36:26 – Tell me about your podcast, The 6AMERS.
- 38:44 – Skye, what’s the best way for people to learn more and connect with you?
“To be a happily divorced person, you must agree on your commonalities. What’s non-negotiable for both of you?”
Skye Michiels
Links
Skye Michiels on Instagram — @skyemichiels
The 6AMERS podcast on Instagram — @the6amers
Recommended Book: Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After
Book a call with Andy → https://theandygrant.com/talk
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