Real Men Feel: Ep. 281, Never Give Up | It Does Get Better

Never Give Up | It Does Get Better Episode 281, December 2, 2022

WARNING: This episode discusses suicidal thoughts and attempts.

If you are in crisis, do not listen to this episode. Please call or text 988 to be connected to trained counselors that are part of the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline network. https://988lifeline.org

If you are outside of the US, please search for suicide prevention in your country. https://support.google.com/websearch/answer/11181469

Last November – 2021 – I stopped doing all the positive things in my life. I chose to dive straight into depression, solitude, and misery. I stopped doing this podcast. I stopped leading men’s groups. I stopped being open to new coaching clients. I stopped exercising. I stopped every positive daily ritual I’ve developed over the years.

The exact circumstances of what started this dark period aren’t important because there is always something we can focus on to our detriment. This life can be heaven or hell; it comes down to us — our outlook, perception, thinking, judgment, and actions.

I took minimal action for months.

I wanted to remind you and myself where I was a year ago because of the rapid change, resilience, support, and positive energy that is available to all of us – but not until we are willing to accept it.

So once I decided enough was enough for depression and hiding out. I started to say yes to the offers to help. I started saying yes to helping others, to being of service, and to better self-care.

Whenever you feel like shit, if you are under siege by your own thoughts saying you should check out of life early – do something for somebody. Make some effort of service for another human being. I find that always changes my mood and outlook.

Listen here:

Life is good. You are good. Please allow yourself to feel that truth.

If you need daily reminders to be of service, to share yourself, and better your mood – I recently discovered Do Good December – a monthly calendar of simple things you can do to spread more love and kindness.