Real Men Feel: Ep. 160, Talking Modern Manhood with Cleo Stiller

December 3, 2019

Talking Modern Manhood Episode 160, December 3, 2019

Cleo Stiller, award-winning journalist and author of, Modern Manhood: Conversations About The Complicated World of Being a Good Man Today, joins us to talk about…. you guessed it: Modern Manhood.

“A lot of what we were taught growing up about what it means to be a good man, or a good woman for that matter, is changing.” ~ Cleo Stiller

Cleo shares what prompted her to write this book, offers many stories from it and discusses #MeToo, the most common questions from men, the history of the workplace, dating, and equality. We all need to get comfortable being uncomfortable.

I highly recommend her book, Modern Manhood: Conversations About the Complicated World of Being a Good Man Today

Topics and Questions Include:

  • (1:42) What first got you interested in writing about men and masculinity?
  • (5:48) What Andy appreciated about the book, Modern Manhood.
  • (7:08) What sort of flack have you gotten for being a woman writing about men?
  • (9:05) Would a man be welcome at a #MeToo support event?
  • (11:02) The subtitle of your book is: Conversations About The Complicated World of Being A Good Man Today — does that mean it is easier to be a “bad man?”
  • (14:38) One man’s story from the work chapter.
  • (18:52) A common thing I’ve heard from many men is that they no longer know how to act in the post #MeToo world. Is there a right way?
  • (25:01) Resistance to change, and the man box.
  • (29:56) People thinking #MeToo has gone too far.
  • (31:46) Businessmen intentionally hiring fewer women due to #MeToo risks.
  • (34:03) History of the workplace.
  • (35:04) Having to watch everything you say.
  • (39:58) The research and history that went into the book.
  • (41:35) One great point you make is that neither men nor women are encouraged to ask, to check-in or verbalize when it comes to anything of an intimate nature.
  • (44:56) Do guys still pay for dates?
  • (47:00) What do you see as the ultimate goal of the #MeToo movement?
  • (50:22) The goal of this book.
  • (52:12) Has #MeToo crossed the line to become all about retribution?
  • (54:40) What does gender equality look like to you?

“The things that were okay, really were never okay. This has been bubbling under the surface for women for decades.” ~ Cleo Stiller

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