Real Men Feel: Ep. 83, Spare Me “The Talk”

Spare Me “The Talk” with Jo Langford Episode 83, February 27, 2018

This week Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined by therapist, sex educator, author, and dad, Jo Langford, to discuss talking with teenage boys about sex. The technology of today makes discussing sex with teens very different from what it was when you first heard “the talk.”

“Fear and ignorance around sexuality cause problems.” ~Jo Langford

If you have a teenage boy, there’s a 50 percent chance that he’s already sexually active, and a 33 percent chance that he’s been solicited by an online predator in the past year. How prepared is he for the risks and realities of sex?

Jo’s mission is to provide healthy social and sexual information to teens and their parents, in a multi-pronged approach consisting of live speaking events, books and a number of resources for youth, their families and other professionals around that intersection of adolescence, sexuality, and technology.

Topics Covered Include:

  • Did you have a fantastic sex talk with your dad as a kid that set you on this path?
  • The guys each share what their sex talks were like from their parents.
  • Does technology make discussing sex with teens different today when we were kids?
  • How does internet porn change what teens know when it comes to sex?
  • What do parents look out for that says it’s time for a discussion?
  • The positive aspects of porn.
  • Jo’s journey from peer counselor to sex educator.
  • Is there a common mistake parents make when it comes to talking about sex with their kids?
  • The widening language around gender and sexual identity.
  • The sort of calls Jo gets from panicked parents.
  • What are most parents doing well?

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Jo has a Spare Me “The Talk” book for boys and another version for girls. His upcoming book, The Pride Guide, is the first puberty book for queer and trans kids.

Half the battle is being an accessible parent.

Gender identity and sexual identity don’t necessarily go hand in hand. Only 48% of youth identify themselves as “exclusively heterosexual.”

Check out Jo’s book, Spare Me ‘The Talk’!: A Guy’s Guide to Sex, Relationships, and Growing Up
See all of Jo Langford’s books

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RMF 72, Real Men React: The Onslaught of Sexual Harassment Charges

Real Men React to Sexual Harassment, Episode 72, December 5, 2017

With the depth and speed of sexual harassment charges, firings, apologies, denials etc. RMF has been wanting a discussion with other men to talk about our reactions to all of this. Andy’s has continually been; “What the fuck?!”

Real Men Feel’s Andy Grant and Appio Hunter, lead a frank discussion with three guys from the private RMF Facebook Group; Anthony Simeone from Gen X Men podcast, Boysen Hodgson of the MankindProject, & Kenny Earl of his own bad self.

This recent cycle began in early October with a New York Times investigation on accusations of sexual harassment and assault against movie producer, Harvey Weinstein dating back to 1990.

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Real Men Feel: Episode 62, The Challenge of Intimacy with Rev. Jody Bailey

Real Men Feel: Intimacy

The Challenge of Intimacy with Rev. Jody Bailey, Episode 62, May 30, 2017

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined by speaker, author and coach, Rev. Jody Bailey, to help men embrace intimacy and tap into their core life force energy for health, wealth and happiness.

We explore what intimacy is. That it is different from sexuality, and all the areas of life intimacy shows up in. Jody shares some of the most common challenges men have to intimacy which include social conditioning and fear. The fear of intimacy is much bigger than the fear of sex.

Authenticity is beautiful. Vulnerability is attractive. 

Jody also shares a great exercise to develop more self-love by standing naked in front of a mirror. Appio has done this and talks about his experience. 

Connect with Rev Jody on Facebook: facebook.com/jodyspeaksinc

See her The Erotic Life blog and The Erotic Life Podcast.

Check out the hi device, Jody mentioned.

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Real Men Feel: Episode 53, Questions and Answers with Sex Worker, Kimberlee Cline

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Questions and Answers with Sex Worker, Kimberlee Cline, Episode 53, March 28, 2017

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined once again by International Touring Escort, Kimberlee Cline, to answer a wide range of questions related to her life as a sex worker. Highlights include the most surprising things she’s learned about herself, differences between decriminalization and legalization of prostitution, and we even hear from a client.

Appio even shares something for the first time from his past!

Other questions addressed include: Is there an age escorts have to retire? If you had a daughter would you recommend she become an escort? Do clients ever fall in love with you? Do you ever fall in love with clients? Have you ever been scared? And many, many more. A very interesting and educational episode.

“Dating is hard, in or out of sex work.” ~Kimberlee Cline

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Real Men Feel: Episode 51, The Reality of Being A Sex Worker with Kimberlee Cline

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The Reality of Being A Sex Worker with Kimberlee Cline, Episode 51, March 14, 2017

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined by International Touring Escort, Kimberlee Cline, to help men understand the etiquette of working with and treating sex workers. Kimberlee also shares her own story about getting into sex work and sex worker advocacy as a founder of Sex Workers Outreach Project. SWOP was created in support of sex workers advocating for sex workers by reducing violence and changing laws.

“Men are seeking sex workers for a lot more than sex.” ~Kimberlee Cline

Kimberlee discusses the three categories that she finds sex work falls into: entertainment, education, healing, and how they are all driven by the seekers.

Kimberlee will return for a live QA call on March 28. You can submit questions in advance to realmenfeel@gmail.com or via twitter by tweeting your questions with #AskKimberlee to @realmenfeelshow or @kimberleecline.

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Real Men Feel: Episode 50, Internalized Homophobia

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Internalized Homophobia, Episode 50, March 7, 2017

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter discuss the concept and share experiences of internalized homophobia. Thanks to an organic gathering of live listeners the perspectives of straight, gay and bisexual men are expressed.

Key topics include; that the put-down of “gay” has nothing to do with sexuality and is all about making someone feel “less” of a man, the notion of separation along many different attributes, and the fact that we are really of one race, the human race.

We also talk about how easy it is to mock a label or term you don’t understand, and that so many issues of attacking an “other” comes from a lack of self-love.

The backstory of this episode can be found in this post – Why Does Being Called ‘Gay’ Bother Me?

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 22, Planned Manhood – Sexual Education for Men

Planned Manhood, Sexual Education for Men with guest, Gabriel DiCristofaro, Episode 22, August 9, 2016.

Andy and Appio are joined by the founder of PlannedManhood.org, Gabriel DiCristofaro to talk sexual education and health for men.

This is a wide-ranging talk that touches on rubbers, vasectomies, adoption and more. Discover what you can do to help meet the goal of increasing adoptions by 20%.

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