Real Men Feel: Episode 52, Awakened Journeys for Men with Jonathan Hermida

Real Men Feel

Awakened Journeys for Men with Jonathan Hermida, Episode 52, March 21, 2017

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined by Men’s transformational coach, Jonathan Hermida, to discuss transformative adventures for men and share his own journey of awakening. A journey that took him from feeling insecure and uncomfortable in his own skin to being a globe-trotting coach, willing to drop the destructive mask of masculinity. Listen and learn about a fantastic opportunity to visit Machu Picchu, Peru as well!

“The mask of masculinity is a most destructive force for guys. We are preening peacocks, but crumbling inside.” ~ Jonathan Hermida

Jonathan’s recommended book, The Surrender Experiment by Michael Singer

Learn more about The Awakening Man: Journey Through the Sacred Valley trip to Peru this August.

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Real Men Feel: Episode 49, Empowering The Family Unit with Kirsty and James Greenshields

Real Men Feel with The Greenshields

Empowering The Family Unit with Kirsty and James Greenshields, Episode 49, February 28, 2017

On this episode of Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined by Kirsty and James Greenshields to explore how you can empower your own family to make a positive effect on your community and the world.

Since 2009, Kirsty and James, founders of Resilient Leaders Foundation, have been assisting others to uncover their leadership potential. Between them, they’ve touched the lives of 1000’s of humans directly, and countless others, indirectly. Their vision is: “To provide young people with the tools and resources they need to positively impact humanity and create a better planet.”

The Greenshields share their own journeys along with the importance of personal resiliency and emotional literacy in improving families, communities and the globe.

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Connect with Kirsty and James at CentreForResiliantLeadership.com, Twitter @LeaderSoulShip, @YOUHealthWealth, and Facebook ResilientLeadersFoundation

Learn more about the Young Warrior Project

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Am I A Man?

Hi, I’m Andy and I’m a human male. That may be quite obvious when you see or hear me, but for a long time, I didn’t feel like a man. I questioned my manliness, my masculinity, and wondered why I never felt like a “real” man. I was sure if the true me was known that my mythical man card would be taken away.

I was an emotional child, a scared child who lived in dread of being picked on, pointed out, or even noticed. A hard look in my direction was often enough to bring on tears. I was anxious and on edge, which would eventually exhaust me into deep sadness and depression.

I was raised by a single mom, which made me feel like less of a man from the start. My mother always said I was such a good boy and somehow just knew what she wanted. I didn’t act out or get in trouble. This was in nursery and elementary school, my acting out came later.

I was afraid of being called on in school, not for getting an answer wrong, but for getting it right and being ostracized for being smart, or coming off as a teacher’s pet. I was afraid of being noticed on the playground. I was afraid of being made fun of at the bus stop. Without realizing it, fear ruled my life.

At the age of 20, while in a mental hospital, I remembered being molested by a neighbor when I was five years old. It was a bit of a relief to discover there was a reason for those years of not feeling safe. But it brought new worries and concerns: Since I was sexually abused by a man, was I gay? Since I was molested will I become a molester? Those fears and more played over and over in my head, but I never dared speak of them.

I thought real men were tough and stoic. So I pretended by being quiet, keeping to myself, and having few friends. I drank my way through high school and college—which seemed a very manly and accepted thing to do—but most nights, I ended up thinking my friends were just using me. I isolated myself in my room, under a bed, or literally in a closet on multiple occasions, crying.

This was no way to live, let alone being a man, so I tried to stop. I tried to stop living and attempted suicide multiple times in my teens and early 20s.

It was only years later that I began to see and respect my strengths: My resilience, my true toughness, my bravery and courage, my willingness and authenticity in feeling. I saw that the more I opened up and shared, the more others did too. My vulnerable risks were always rewarded. I began to think, maybe my willingness to feel is what really makes me a man? Hiding, resisting, and denying may appear to be traditional manliness but it is another aspect of fear.

What if the bravest thing you could do was cry? What if you felt strong enough to admit that you don’t have it all figured out? What if real men feel?

Originally published at GoodMenProject.com

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About The Author
Andy GrantAndy Grant is a best-selling author, award-winning speaker, Transformational Energy Coach, Akashic Records Reader and suicide prevention activist. He holds certificates in Positive Psychology, the Enwaken Coaching System, Akashic Records, Infinite Possibilities and Reiki, as well as other leadership programs and energy work modalities.

Andy teaches workshops ranging from energy tools to ebook publishing, and is the founder of Real Men Feel, a movement encouraging men to come out of the emotional closet. He also facilitates monthly men’s groups and is a contributor at the GoodMenProject. As a survivor of multiple suicide attempts, Andy knows how low we as human beings can feel, and he is committed to helping people realize how magnificent life is meant to be. Learn more about Andy at TheAndyGrant.com

Real Men Feel: Episode 46, The Evolved Masculine with guest, Destin Gerek

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The Evolved Masculine with Destin Gerek, Episode 46, February 7, 2017

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined by Destin Gerek to talk about the archetype of the Evolved Masculine, what it means and making a positive impact on the world. We also delve into the notion of toxic masculinity, the power of experience, that Trump guy, the need to hold up what is right not only call out what is wrong, and much more.

Destin shares some of his own journey, including the realization that the version of masculinity shown to him while growing up wasn’t for him, and his time living the Erotic Rockstar life.

Destin calls on all good men in the world to claim their fucking power! “The more I serve, the more I receive.”

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Check out the Evolved Masculine Blueprint

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Tune in to Destin’s show The Evolved Masculine: Redefining Sex, Power & Success – Destin Gerek

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This week’s recommend book – The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 40, The Modern Mystery School with Jordan Bain

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The Modern Mystery School with Jordan Bain, Episode 40, December 20, 2016

On this episode of Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined by ritual master, guide and healer, Jordan Bain, who delves into how The Modern Mystery School can serve both men and women in knowing ourselves better. Jordan shares the background of The Modern Mystery School lineage which goes back 3,000 years to the time of King Salomon and is the result of 30 years of efforts bringing together healers and teachers from around world.

The show touches on enlightenment, the split between science and spirituality, Jordan’s path of discovery, the calling for feminine creation and leadership, as well as Kabbalah.

Andy said one of the coolest things he’s done in 2016, was get initiated into The Modern Mystery School.

See Andy’s before and after Life Activation videos, as well as his video following Initiation.

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Learn more about Jordan at HealingBoston.com

Check out the Modern Mystery School main site.

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 32, New Warrior Training Adventure Report

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New Warrior Training Adventure Weekend Report, Episode 32, October 25, 2016

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant shares his recent experience attending the ManKind Project’s New Warrior Training Adventure (NWTA) weekend. The short version is: Go do it!

Andy shares without giving spoilers and after attending 40, live, multi-day, personal growth events in the last eight years, the NWTA sits strongly in the top two. This is strong, deep, work that allowed Andy to never be more comfortable in his own skin and never to feel safer with a group of men. WARNING: Lots of open, honest, swear-filled talk this week.

Listen to our interview with the ManKind Project’s Boysen Hodgson, Episode 26, SEP 7, 2016

Learn more about the ManKind Project and their New Warrior Training Adventure at mankindproject.org

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See my “before” and “after” videos.

Below is my picture from the start of the weekend on the left, and the end of the weekend on the right, along with my animal name; Fun-Loving Chipmunk.

My beginning and ending photos

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New Warrior Training Adventure (NWTA) with The ManKind Project

This past weekend I took part in the signature program of the ManKind Project, the New Warrior Training Adventure (NWTA) weekend. I learned of it thanks to Real Men Feel when we spoke with Boysen Hodgson in episode #26.

I’ve been to dozens of multi-day personal growth events, but never one exclusively with men. I hoped I would gain some clarity around my working with men, and I was also looking forward to learning more about the ManKind Project and how they run an event as I do see live events for Real Men Feel some day soon.

I gained all of that and more… a LOT more. All my expectations were insanely exceeded.

As I like to do when I’m venturing off into the unknown, I made a “before” and “after” video. So here they are.

 Before NWTA – October 21, 2016

After NWTA – October 24, 2016

Check out NWTA, they are held all over the world, and sign up! I cannot recommend this enough!

I’ll share more in the October 25 episode of Real Men Feel which is being recorded live Tuesday at 8pm Eastern. If you join us live you’ll be able to share comments, ask questions and even be fully seen and heard as part of the show if you choose. We use a platform called Zoom and you’ll need to download some software the first time you use it. RealMenFeel.org/show

UPDATE: The show is live and you can check it out here.

The journey continues.

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About The Author
Andy GrantAndy Grant is a best-selling author, award-winning speaker, Transformational Energy Coach, Akashic Records Reader and suicide prevention activist. He holds certificates in Positive Psychology, the Enwaken Coaching System, Akashic Records, Infinite Possibilities and Reiki, as well as other leadership programs and energy work modalities.

Andy teaches workshops ranging from energy tools to ebook publishing, and is the founder of Real Men Feel, a movement encouraging men to come out of the emotional closet. He also facilitates monthly men’s groups. As a survivor of multiple suicide attempts, Andy knows how low we as human beings can feel, and he is committed to helping people realize how magnificent life is meant to be. Learn more about Andy at NavitasCoach.com

Real Men Feel: Ep. 26, The ManKind Project with Boysen Hodgson

Real Men Feel: ManKind Project

The ManKind Project, with guest Boysen Hodgson, Episode 26, September 6, 2016
What the hell is the mankind project?

On this episode of Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter, explore The ManKind Project with Director of Marketing and Communications, Boysen Hodgson. Boysen shares the mission, origins and much more regarding The ManKind Project and their New Warrior Training Adventure. Beginning with three guys in 1984, MKP now reaches 10,000 men each week via men’s groups in the United States alone, and more than 60,000 men have gone through their weekend intensive.  #RealMenFeel

Learn more about MKP at ManKindProject.org

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 25, That Guy Who Loves The Universe, Sean Patrick

Real Men Feel with Sean Patrick

That Guy Who Loves The Universe, with guest Sean Patrick, Episode 25, August 30, 2016
Hi, I’m a man and I feel.
On this episode of Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter, are once again joined by Sean Patrick, That Guy Who Loves The Universe. While Appio suffers technical difficulties, Sean shares a bit of his path to loving the Universe and tips on how it is possible for anyone. Andy and Sean discuss  their experiences with depression, spirituality, and positive psychology – even if it is too “California” for some people. #RealMenFeel

You can connect with Sean at Facebook.com/ThatGuyWhoLovesTheUniverse
Check out Sean’s book, That Guy Who Loves The Universe: A Modern Tale of Setbacks, Second Chances and Spiritual Enlightenment

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Be the Genius of Yourself

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In September 1995, comedian Pat Cooper made an infamous appearance on Howard Stern’s radio show. It was another situation where Stern (purposely or not) goaded a celebrity into an argument, and the result was pure entertainment.

I clearly remember the moment during their on-air fight when Howard challenged Cooper by asking “What are you a genius of?” To which Cooper responded “I am a genius of myself.”

There’s debate on what Cooper meant by that phrase. Some think he had just spouted nonsense. Others thought he was being smug.

But my favorite theory is that Cooper believes in knowing himself, and his abilities, very well.

Wisdom from a Howard Stern broadcast? Just stick with me here.

Cooper made me think of the saying “Know Thyself.” You may have seen this phrase (also known as an aphorism) used by Greek philosopher Plato (who is perhaps slightly more famous than Pat Cooper). Plato’s gist was this: you have to understand yourself before you can understand anyone else. It’s a beautiful paradox that self-knowledge ultimately leads to other-knowledge.

This is why we, as men, have to fight against the bad habit of ignoring our mental and emotional depth. We have to commit to unlearning the stereotype of the “never-weak” male, where sensitivity and exploration of our feelings is perceived as weakness. Because avoiding internal self-improvement is the root of much of the conflict we experience in our daily lives.

When we don’t understand ourselves, how can we hope to understand others?

Guys, it’s simple: we need to stop beating ourselves up. For our own sake, and the sake of those around us.
(TWEET THIS!)

But don’t just take my word for it. You can read up on the sociological and psychological research regarding the dangers of being a stranger to yourself.

So what can you do to get to know yourself better? Start with the conscious decision to command the direction of your life.

Captaining Your Fate

If you’ve seen the movie “Invictus,” you know the quote from the William Ernest Henley poem of the same name: “I am the master of my fate. I am the captain of my soul.”

We all want to be the master of our own fate, right? The problem is, too many of us wait for external circumstances to give us the signal that we can take charge of ourselves. We tell ourselves we’ll work to be better personally when we get the right job, the right romantic partner, the right connections.

Don’t wait for outside permission to work on yourself, because the “right time” will never come.
(TWEET THIS!)

We often become frustrated when the world around us seems to thwart our plans. But if we focus on what we can control – our inner world – we can learn to react calmly and effectively to external forces we can’t control (especially other people).

So, inner-mastery should be a priority in our lives. That’s the foundation for outer-mastery. But what can we master within ourselves?

Primarily, it’s important to choose how you will react to any circumstance life brings your way.

We often cannot change the situations we find ourselves in, but we can change our reactions to those situations. It takes mindfulness and practice, but the change can be made.

The better you know your own human condition, the more tolerance you’ll have for the seemingly random events of circumstance as well as the actions of others. You’ll also develop the emotional resilience to rebound when things don’t go your way.

Remember that everyone on this planet is on a path of struggle and growth, just like you. Whether you realize it or not, your actions can seem just as random and confusion to other people. Very often, the misunderstandings we encounter in life are the result of miscommunication and the bad habit of assuming too much. This is why it’s important to simply talk to other people, and to stop believing you know what other people are thinking.

So here’s my challenge to you: make the decision today to be the genius of yourself!

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anthony simeoneAbout the Author
Anthony Simeone is a writer, speaker, personal development activist, and social change warrior with over two decades of experience studying the practical application of literature, philosophy, psychology, and other disciplines. The culmination of his work is the Live the Hero concept, which he offers as a life path for use in overcoming life’s daily obstacles. Live the Hero combines the wisdom found in the arts and humanities with the latest discoveries related to modern neuroscience.

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