Real Men Feel: Ep. 127, Dealing with Smartphone Addiction

Dealing with Smartphone Addiction Episode 127, January 15, 2019

This week Andy Grant is joined by fitness and lifestyle coach, Oliver Cowlishaw, who shares everything that rose up when he confronted his smartphone addiction. Andy discovered Oliver thanks to a video Oliver made about his effort to cut down on his smartphone use and all the underlying shame that he could no longer ignore.

“If I am emotional, if I am vulnerable, if I let my sensitive nature be on display, bad things will happen. The video was a test of that.” ~Oliver Cowlishaw

Everyone makes choices between authentically feeling whatever is going on for them, and not – by ignoring, stuffing, denying, blaming, attacking… there are countless ways to avoid our emotions. What they all come down to is some sort of a distraction. One of the most potent and addictive distractions we all carry around are smartphones.

What would you be doing if you weren’t looking at your phone? What would you see if you weren’t staringng at a screen? What do you feel when you stop reaching for that smartphone?

Topics Covered Include:

  • What prompted you to want to cut down your smartphone use?
  • What did you notice when you curtailed your use?
  • Were those feelings always there?
  • What steps did you take to cut down your smartphone usage?
  • What is healthy, productive use vs. distraction?
  • Do you have a goal for smartphone use?
  • Does anything stand out as easier than expected in lessening your phone use?
  • Shame makes you more susceptible to smartphone addiction.
  • What’s the response to the video been?
  • The valley of deception

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“Reaching for the phone was often to avoid a feeling.” ~Oliver Cowlishaw


See Oliver’s original video Confronting My Smartphone Addiction and Toxic Shame.
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Real Men Feel: Ep. 107, Rescuing The Rescuers with Stephen Kavalkovich

Rescuing The Rescuers Episode 107, August 21, 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by 9/11 first responder, writer, and podcaster, Stephen Kavalkovich, to talk about the immense pressure, and challenges faced by first responders. Stephen holds nothing back while recounting his experiences as a paramedic and drug addict, as well as his recovery and dedication to helping others.

“The greatest way we are going to help humanity is tied to the greatest pain we’ve ever felt.” ~Stephen Kavalkovich

Stephen is one of the most open men we’ve ever had on the show. His is a painful and compelling tale of self-destruction and rebirth that is all too common for first responders, and the rebirth is not guaranteed.

Did you know in the US, we’ve lost more people to opioids than were lost in the Vietnam War?

Topics Covered Include:

  • Stephen on mindset, purpose and discovering it.
  • Addiction and being a first responder.
  • The fall and losing it all.
  • The rescuer being rescued by his old partner.
  • The problems with identifying with something outside of you.
  • What can you do to help an addict in your life?
  • What turned it around for you?
  • Stigmas, shame, and masculinity.
  • The stress when your job is responding to everyone else’s worst day.
  • What do you wish you other 1st responders knew that they don’t?
  • What are your future goals?

 


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“When who I am was gone, I didn’t know who I was anyone.” ~Stephen Kavalkovich

What is Rescue The Rescuer Podcast?

Do You Ever Feel Like Everything Is Going Up In Flames? Firefighters, police officers, soldiers, EMS providers, and all first responders are under immense pressure and stress, day in and day out. This can lead to incredible challenges both at work and at home. Stephen Kavalkovich’s mission is to put a spotlight on these problems and help find solutions with the Rescue the Rescuer podcast and blog. He wants to help shred the shame and highlight strategies that work to alleviate and eliminate common stumbling blocks for First Responders like addiction, PTSD, relationship failure, and more.

Connect with Stephen on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and LinkedIn

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