Real Men Feel: Ep. 112, Faces of Fortitude

Faces of Fortitude with Mariangela Abeo Episode 112, September 25, 2018

1-800-273-8255This week Andy Grant is joined by photographer, producer, and mental health advocate, Mariangela “M” Abeo, to talk about suicide, depression and her portrait project, Faces of Fortitude, which is tackling the stigma around discussing mental health by giving people affected by suicide a safe space to share their stories.

“Suicide is a hot coal we don’t know what to do with, and we can’t hold for too long.” ~M

M’s Faces of Fortitude projected has interviewed and photographed 100 people impacted by suicide and mental illness in some way and has a simple, yet powerful goal, of turning trauma into something else and making a space for healing.

Topics Covered Include:

  • What is Faces of Fortitude?
  • What prompted it’s creation?
  • What sort of feedback have you gotten with this project?
  • Tell me how your sessions work?
  • What is your vetting process?
  • Do people see this as glamorizing suicide?
  • What’s been your reaction to some of the stories people share with you?
  • How do the men differ from women?
  • What are you proudest about regarding Faces of Fortitude?
  • What are your plans for this project?
  • What helped you the most?
  • How can people get involved or support this?

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“People laughing through their tears are my favorite pictures.” ~M Abeo

Learn more at FacesOfFortitude.com

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See Andy’s book: Still Here: How to Succeed in Life After Failing at Suicide.

Get help: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 111, Losing Your Father to Suicide

Losing Your Father to Suicide with Zak Williams Episode 111, September 18, 2018

1-800-273-8255This week Andy Grant is joined by mental health advocate, Zak Williams, for an open talk about depression, mental health and losing his dad to suicide four years ago.

“His pathos was seeking to entertain and please. He felt when he wasn’t doing that; he was not succeeding as a person. …but he was the most successful person I knew.” ~Zak Williams

As part of National Suicide Prevention Month, Andy and Zak discuss being a survivor of suicide, the impact of losing a family member to suicide, and the masks that too many men hide behind when it comes to their mental health.

Topics Covered Include:

  • Was your father’s suicide that something you were concerned about happening or was it a complete shock?
  • Did you have a close relationship with your dad when you were growing up?
  • At what age did you realize your father’s job and lifestyle was different than most other people?
  • Much of your dad’s challenges with addiction was pretty public. How was that for you?
  • The recent documentary, Robin Williams: Come Inside My Head.
  • Did you define success in a different way than your dad did?
  • Did his celebrity make dealing with his death more difficult?
  • Zak’s challenges with depression and anxiety.
  • Have those “what else could I have done thoughts” faded away?
  • Tell us about BringChange2Mind.org
  • What has helped you the most in dealing with depression and anxiety?

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“I think the dynamic is changing for the better in terms of people feeling more comfortable in opening up, but it needs to be a continuous sustained effort.” ~Zak Williams

Learn more at: BringChange2Mind.org

See Andy’s book: Still Here: How to Succeed in Life After Failing at Suicide.

Get help: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 110, Preventing Workplace Violence

Preventing Workplace Violence Episode 110, September 11, 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by attorney, Stuart Silverman, to discuss workplace and school violence. Stuart is a founding member of the Workplace Violence Prevention Institute, and he believes mass shootings can be reverse engineered and prevented.

“Reverse engineer the events, and you’ll see warning signs – and they are preventable.” ~Stuart Silverman

Stuart Silverman has been practicing law in South Florida for over twenty-five years. His practice focuses on labor & employment, litigation and business, and corporate law. His extensive litigation experience includes claims involving underage, race, and sex discrimination, wage and hour claims, ADA, and FMLA claims, whistleblower claims, and much more.

Stuart is also one of the founding members of the Workplace Violence Prevention Institute, which is a resource/Think Tank for preventing violence in schools and companies.

Topics Covered Include:

  • Is this a 2nd Amendment issue?
  • How did a labor attorney get involved with workplace violence prevention?
  • What can be done to prevent school shootings?
  • Are companies and schools being more proactive these days?
  • When there is an active shooter going on, there is a failed policy.
  • A few ways companies can prevent workplace violence.
  • What can be done to prevent school shootings?
  • What are some of the warning signs?
  • Have you heard of a shooting that didn’t have any warning signs?
  • Do you find that more metal detectors or weapons at schools make them safer?
  • Any suggestions for students to feel more safe and empowered?
  • What is the Workplace Violence Prevention Institute?
  • How would you know prevention is working?

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“Workplace violence costs employers more than $120 billion each year. Almost 46% of all active shooter situations occur at businesses.” ~WPVI

Read more: The Killer in the Next Cubicle-The tragedy of workplace violence in America and 161 recent employee-on-employee homicides.

WVPI site: WorkplaceViolencePreventionInstitute.org

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 107, Rescuing The Rescuers with Stephen Kavalkovich

Rescuing The Rescuers Episode 107, August 21, 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by 9/11 first responder, writer, and podcaster, Stephen Kavalkovich, to talk about the immense pressure, and challenges faced by first responders. Stephen holds nothing back while recounting his experiences as a paramedic and drug addict, as well as his recovery and dedication to helping others.

“The greatest way we are going to help humanity is tied to the greatest pain we’ve ever felt.” ~Stephen Kavalkovich

Stephen is one of the most open men we’ve ever had on the show. His is a painful and compelling tale of self-destruction and rebirth that is all too common for first responders, and the rebirth is not guaranteed.

Did you know in the US, we’ve lost more people to opioids than were lost in the Vietnam War?

Topics Covered Include:

  • Stephen on mindset, purpose and discovering it.
  • Addiction and being a first responder.
  • The fall and losing it all.
  • The rescuer being rescued by his old partner.
  • The problems with identifying with something outside of you.
  • What can you do to help an addict in your life?
  • What turned it around for you?
  • Stigmas, shame, and masculinity.
  • The stress when your job is responding to everyone else’s worst day.
  • What do you wish you other 1st responders knew that they don’t?
  • What are your future goals?

 


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“When who I am was gone, I didn’t know who I was anyone.” ~Stephen Kavalkovich

What is Rescue The Rescuer Podcast?

Do You Ever Feel Like Everything Is Going Up In Flames? Firefighters, police officers, soldiers, EMS providers, and all first responders are under immense pressure and stress, day in and day out. This can lead to incredible challenges both at work and at home. Stephen Kavalkovich’s mission is to put a spotlight on these problems and help find solutions with the Rescue the Rescuer podcast and blog. He wants to help shred the shame and highlight strategies that work to alleviate and eliminate common stumbling blocks for First Responders like addiction, PTSD, relationship failure, and more.

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 106, What to Do When Feelings Are Too Much with Nick Haines

What to Do When Feelings Are Too Much Episode 106, August 14, 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by by Kindness Ambassador and Life Architect, Nicholas Haines, to discuss how knowing your energy type can help you to handle your feelings and navigate the world much better.

“If you are unkind to yourself, as a lot of us are, and then start to be really kind to other people, you start to create a split. You’ll feel like a fraud.” ~Nick Haines

Nick is an international speaker, author, strategist and teacher in Chinese energetics. He’s also the creator of The Vitality Test and founder of the Five Institute. Nick is actively creating a world where Kindness is the common language and way of life. From how you treat yourself and others, to how families, business cultures, governments and international change operate.

The conversation touches on depression, anxiety, Chinese medicine, quantum physics, emotions and The Vitality Test, which can help you get a handle on it all.

Topics Covered Include:

  • What is a Kindness Ambassador?
  • The power of being kinder to yourself.
  • Has being Kind to everyone always been the way you operate?
  • Nick’s journey from low self-esteem and anxiety, to speaking at the United Nations.
  • What is the Vitality Test?
  • Where does the test come from?
  • What is the Five Institute all about?
  • The five main energy types and their primary emotions.
  • Andy’s results from the Vitality Test.
  • The problem with boxes.
  • What happens when your life isn’t aligned with your energy.
  • And much more

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“People can be in a habit of not being kind to themsleves because they do something, make a mistake, and the response is they kick the shit out of themselves.” ~Nick Haines

If you want to gain more understanding about yourself and your value to others, then I encourage you to take The Vitality Test. It’s free, simple, and doesn’t require a lot of time.

Learn more about what Nick Haines is up to.
TheVitalityTest.com
FiveInstitute.com
Nicholas-Haines.com
NoMoreBoxesMovement.com

 

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 105, Developing Self-Confidence with Darnell Donerson

Developing Self-Confidence Episode 105, August 7, 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by writer, Darnell Donerson, to share his very public quest for building his confidence and overcoming negative thinking. Andy first met Darnell thanks to his debut article for GoodMenProject, Developing My Confidence.

“I got fed up with myself. Tired of being the victim.” ~Darnell Donerson

After years of struggling with his confidence, Darnell decided to turn his life around. Now he hopes to be a voice to help and inspire others. See Danell’s column on GoodMenProject.

Topics Covered Include:

  • What lead you to believe you had a problem with confidence?
  • Battling negativity and self-judgment.
  • How was growing up for you?
  • What sort of myths have you come across regarding men and confidence?
  • How immigrants see America.
  • Was there one main reason you wanted to feel more confident?
  • What made you decide to start your blog?
  • The power of setting goals.
  • The feedback Darnell’s received to his writing.
  • Anything come as surprisingly easy or difficult?
  • What are some words you used to use to describe yourself?
  • What about now?
  • What are you looking forward to?

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“Comparison is the thief of joy.” ~Theodore Roosevelt

See all of Darnell’s Good Men Project posts.

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 104, Men and Postnatal Depression with Darren Horne

Men and Postnatal Depression Episode 104, July 31 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by leadership and communications consultant, Darren Horne, to share his call to adventure including postnatal depression and being a dad. Fatherhood isn’t always a magical and loving experience from the get-go. Postnatal, or postpartum, depression can hit men as well as women.

“Our parents did not bring us into the world to work 40 – 50 hours a week doing a job we hate.” ~Darren Horne

Darren shares how he tried to avoid his depression, as well as all the tools that helped, overcome it. Despite the subject matter, this is an upbeat conversation full of passion and zest for life. See Darren’s column on GoodMenProject.

Topics Covered Include:

  • What is postnatal depression?
  • How common is this for men?
  • Had you ever heard of it or been warned about it?
  • How did you deal with your postnatal depression?
  • Since you’ve opened up about it have you met more men who’ve experienced it too?
  • The pain and grief of a miscarriage.
  • The many gifts coming out of challenges.
  • Going through a divorce and being more resilient.
  • Seeing life as a computer game.
  • We live in a society that makes money off our unhappiness.
  • The meaning of life.
  • Darren’s book for teens.
  • What does your vasectomy have to do with leadership?

 


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“We are the victim of a society that makes us stay safe in a grey and ordinary world.” ~Darren Horne

Darren’s book: Level Up Your Teens

Discover how easy it is to publish on Amazon. Check out Andy’s online course.

Learn more about Darren at DarrenHorne.com

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 101, Balancing Wants, Needs, and Dreams

Balancing Wants, Needs, and Dreams Episode 101, July 10, 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by blogger and podcaster, Andrew Davis, to discuss the challenges and frustrations men feel around doing what you have to do rather than doing what you want to do.

This is an engaging conversation covering everything from chronic pain, to lessons from maturity, dealing with change and much more. Whether you are 25 or 75, there are nuggets of wisdom and resonance.

“I only need 51%, that is a winning day for me.” ~Andrew Davis

A big part of being a man means you gotta take a risk. If you believe in yourself, taking your shot isn’t that risky.

Topics Covered Include:

  • How do you balance what you want to do and what you have to do?
  • How would you define your wants vs. your needs?
  • Does what you want to do and have to do ever overlap?
  • How has this affected your view of masculinity?
  • Physical challenges leading to hobbies and creativity.
  • The effect of chronic pain on personal morale.
  • What does your podcast cover?
  • What sort of subjects do you blog about?
  • What makes someone less of a man?
  • What were some of your expectations about being a man when you were growing up?
  • What happens on a bad day?
  • How do deal with ongoing life challenges?
  • What is your big goal or dream?

 


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Real Men Feel: Ep. 99, The Bound Between Men and Dogs

The Connection Between Men and Dogs Episode 99, June 26, 2018

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant is joined by by Richard Morrell and Sean Higgins to discuss the emotional bonds between men and man’s best friend; touching on everything from unconditional love to grief.

“I wrote about the emotional bond between men and dogs back in May, but knew I had to wait longer before I could possibly speak about it.” ~Andy Grant

This is the article that prompted today’s discussion: Men and Their Dogs

Dogs, unlike perhaps anything else in the typical man’s life, give unconditional love and support. Your dog is ALWAYS glad to see you. Your dog ALWAYS loves you, whether you just yelled at him for eating your favorite sneakers or you’ve spent hours tossing a ball to them. No other living creature gives so much emotion, presence, attention and time to a man like a dog. Your dog will never call you names, go behind your back, or leave you for another owner.

Topics Covered Include:

  • Richard and Andy talk about recently putting dogs down.
  • The intensity of grief around losing a dog.
  • The unconditional love dogs offer.
  • The support of dogs when depressed and suicidal.
  • Have you seen men in your family display more emotion regarding their dog than other people?
  • What do you think is behind your connection to your dogs, as a child or adult?
  • Have you ever been surprised by your grief regarding a pet?
  • Do you think men are encouraged to show emotion related to dogs or is it more that they are discouraged in showing emotion in other areas of life?
  • Why do you think the bond between a man and his dog can be so strong?
  • Was the loss of a dog, in life or on screen, a moment that was ok for the adults in your life to cry over when you were a kid?
  • Anything top of mind that you’ve learned from a dog?
  • Some wild stories involving animal communicators are shared.
  • What do we mean when we say “pulling yourself together?”

 


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Need some science?

Why Are Humans and Dogs So Good Living Together
The Science Behind the Dog and Human Relationship

Andy’s posts about his dog, Sadie:
A Dog Guarantees One of the Best Days of Your Life and One of the Worst
Learning From The Master: My Dog

This is the video that Andy saw of Sadie five years ago and had he and his wife rush to the shelter.

Andy’s book: Homer’s Guide to Happiness: Six Life Lessons I Learned From My Dog
Louise Hay and David Kessler’s book: You Can Heal Your Heart

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 98, Healing the Family Father Wound with Jed Diamond

Healing the Family Father Wound Episode 98, June 19, 2018

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant is joined by one of the world’s leading experts on men’s issues, Jed Diamond, Ph.D.

Jed has been a licensed psychotherapist for over 40 years and is the author of twelve books including Male Menopause and The Irritable Male Syndrome, his newest book tackles what Jed believes is one problem that surpasses all others in its impact on men, women, and society. That book is My Distant Dad: Healing the Family Father Wound.

“Disconnected males, without a strong sense of inner guidance, can become abusive towards women and destructive towards men.” ~Jed Diamond, Ph.D.

The father wound impacts four critical areas of our lives:

  • Our physical health
  • Our emotional health
  • Our relationship health
  • Our social and political health

The effects of growing up without a loving, engaged, father ripple through the generations and contribute to many of the most serious problems we face in our society today including:

  • Drug and alcohol abuse
  • Depression and suicide
  • Teen pregnancy
  • Sexual dysfunction, harassment, and addiction
  • Poverty
  • Divorce
  • Unhappy, loveless, sexless, and lifeless marriages
  • Crime, conflict, and violence
  • Fear and aggression between groups

Topics Covered Include:

  • Besides being a man, what got you to focus on men’s issues?
  • What is a father wound?
  • Can the family father wound by created by a father who is physically absent as well as a father who is emotionally absent?
  • Does anyone not have a father wound?
  • How doe the father wound impact our lives?
  • Does this wound effect only men?
  • What do children need from their father?
  • What are some of the effects of growing up without a present, loving father?
  • Months before the 2016 presidential election, you wrote an article “The Real Reason Donald Trump Will Be Our Next President” can you remind us of those reasons?
  • What has been most beneficial in your healing?

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According to the National Center for Fathering, “More than 20 million children live in a home without the physical presence of a father. Millions more have dads who are physically present, but emotionally absent. If it were classified as a disease, fatherlessness would be an epidemic worthy of attention as a national emergency.”

Read Jed’s latest book: My Distant Dad: Healing the Family Father Wound, published by Lasting Impact Press, an imprint of Connection Victory Publishing Company.

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