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Real Men Feel: Ep. 139, Removing our Emotional Barriers

Removing our Emotional Barriers Episode 139, July 9, 2019

Coach, Matt Dillingham, shares his insights around being willing to look deeper into ourselves and what to do with what you find.

“We are taught to resist what we feel and only express ourselves through anger. e posterchild for avoiding vulnerability. I avoided it at all costs.” ~Matt Dillingham

In the show, Matt shares a technique that eliminated his fear of flying and that he uses to help his client process their emotions.

Topics and Questions Include:

  • What is the biggest reason men commit the majority of crimes?
  • Is expressing emotions natural?
  • Were you ever called weak or a pussy?
  • The problem with focusing only on mindset
  • Is not expressing emotions something men are taught?
  • Are the dangers of a boy crying different than for a man?
  • As an emotional man, how did you end up in the Marines?
  • Why have men been told it is wrong to be vulnerable?
  • How do we remove our emotional barriers?
  • The secret of life
  • How do we best deal with our emotions?
  • What is one thing you wish more men knew?
  • What are you looking forward to?

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“Feelings drive behavior.” ~ Matt Dillingham

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 138, Real Men Talk

Man in waves

Real Men Talk Episode 138, July 6, 2019

Host, Andy Grant, explains where the show has been for the last three months and the importance of men feeling and talking.

It may seem strange that an episode called Real Men Talk doesn’t feature any guests, but I’m here to talk to you this time.

“Just because you think it, doesn’t mean it’s true. And just because it’s in your head, doesn’t mean it’s you.” ~Andy Grant

Andy talks about where the show has been for the past three months and his descent into darkness.

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 137, The Price of Heartbreak

The Price of Heartbreak Episode 137, April 10, 2019

Author, Rick Sharpe, joins us to discuss his experience with depression following the end of a relationship and discovering the power in his own vulnerability. Note: Rick joined us from Dubai and the video froze a few times, but the audio is solid.

“I was the posterchild for avoiding vulnerability. I avoided it at all costs.” ~Rick Sharpe

Rick’s book and this conversation focuses on discovering the power in vulnerability as well as learning the difference between reacting and responding.

Topics and Questions Include:

  • What has you living in Dubai?
  • What prompted your book, The Price of Heartbreak?
  • Was this your first breakup?
  • What was your healing process like?
  • Discovering Brené Brown.
  • Where did you learn it was wrong to be vulnerable?
  • What was the goal of the book?
  • What’s the best thing that has happened from writing, The Price of Heartbreak?
  • Were you afraid to know yourself?
  • What stands out as a key to your growth and healing?
  • Some men respond to heartbreak by giving up on relationships entirely, is that something you considered?

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“I had to learn to love how I am. That was a huge leap of faith.” ~ Rick Sharpe

Learn more about Rick at Rick-Sharpe.com

Check out Rick’s book, The Price of Heartbreak: Healing is mindfully feeling

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 136, Living a Confident Life

You got this!

Living a Confident Life Episode 136, March 26, 2019

Coach, educator, and podcaster, Dennis Sumlin, joins us to discuss harnessing your spirituality to master your inner game and take the field.

Confidence coach and blind man are not two phrases that go together often, but Dennis Sumlin is a powerful example of a man living beyond any label.

“In order to be a confident man from the core, we must take ownership of our feelings and choices.” ~Dennis Sumlin

Being a man requires confidence. Dennis believes embracing our emotions and spirit are key to creating self confidence.

Topics and Questions Include:

  • What is confidence?
  • Denis discusses three types of confidence: situational, self-esteem, and core confidence.
  • How can someone tell whether they have confidence or not?
  • Are some people naturally confident?
  • Is your own confidence something you had to work at?
  • How has being blind impacted your confidence?
  • How is harnessing your spirituality part of confidence?
  • Where does taking ownership of our feelings and choices come in?
  • Does healthy confidence require humility?
  • Are there some common habits people fall into that lower their confidence?
  • What are some basic tools to help develop more confidence?
  • What are some typical blocks you see to men exploring their spirituality?

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“Society challenged my perceptions of myself, my masculinity too.” ~ Dennis Sumlin

Learn more about Dennis at CoreConfidenceLife.com

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 135, How to Dominate with Your Heart and Soul

Heart-centered

How to Dominate with Your Heart and Soul Episode 135, March 19, 2019

Dov Baron is recognized as one of the top 100 leadership speakers and corporate cultural strategist. He joins us to discuss purpose-driven leadership and the importance of aligning heart, soul, and mind.

The most important question we will ever ask ourselves is: “Why Am I Here? Followed by: What am I going to do about it?” ~Dov Baron

Dov works with CEOs and executives to grow their businesses by growing themselves. I was happily surprised by Dov’s depth of spirituality and personal growth experiences and knowledge, including quantum physics and Kabbalah. This conversation gave me new hope for corporate America.

Topics and Questions Include:

  • What is purpose?
  • What is purpose in regards to business?
  • What are the benefits of a purpose-driven organization?
  • How do you define leadership?
  • Resistance, ego, and vulnerability.
  • Skepticism vs pessimism.
  • How did you get involved in purpose and meaning work?
  • What is the meaning of life?
  • Breaching the bias.
  • What is the core of heart-centered domination?

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“At its basic, business is human. It is relationships.” ~ Dov Baron

Learn more about Dov at FullMontyLeadership.com

Contact Dov – dov@dovbaron.com

Gifts from Dov at FullMontyLeadership.com/gift

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 134, Introduction to the Live The Hero Philosophy

Heroism Mindset

Introduction to the Live The Hero Philosophy Episode 134, March 12, 2019

Returning to Real Men Feel, Anthony Simeone is a writer, speaker, and self-described “heroism advocate” with over two decades of experience in the practical application of literature, philosophy, psychology, and other disciplines. His the Live the Hero philosophy offers us a “life path” for use in overcoming obstacles.

“Heroic tales have always been meant to be inspirational as well as entertaining.” ~Anthony Simeone

This conversation is in response to a series of articles Anthony wrote for the GoodMenProject.com about his Live The Hero philosophy.

Heroism is a Mindset, not a Moment
Cultivate a Heroic Mindset
Overcome Obstacles with the CALL Cycle
Heroic Life is All About Motion

Topics and Questions Include:

  • What kicked off your interest in heroes and this mindset?
  • What do you mean by Heroism is a mindset, not a moment?
  • Is this just an ego trip?
  • Are heroes perfect?
  • What are some ways anyone can create or live a heroic mindset?
  • What is the negativity bias?
  • The rugged individual mindset
  • How does the heroic mindset deal with life’s inherent lack of certainty?
  • How do heroes overcome obstacles?
  • Growth mindset vs fixed mindset
  • Can anyone develop a heroic mindset?
  • Why doesn’t everyone embrace this mindset?
  • What is the end result of living life with this mindset?

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“That is the lesson of hero stories: no matter your situation, you have the power to uplift yourself and others and strive to make things better..” ~ Anthony Simeone

Learn more about Anthony at LiveTheHero.com

See all of Anthony’s articles at GoodMenProject.com

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 128, The Gillette Ad and Backlash

The Best Men Can Be?

The Gillette Ad and Backlash Episode 128, January 17, 2019

A Real Men Feel panel has been formed to discuss the Gillette campaign that seems to have the Internet in an uproar. Much appreciation to Al Flemming, Ameé Quiriconi, Anthony Simeone, Boysen Hodgson, Brandon Boucher, Brian Cardoza, Kenny Earl, and Tony Crisostomo for being a part of this show.

“The ad asks, Is this the best a man can get? How does asking questions come off as lecturing or offensive?” ~Andy Grant

I don’t understand how being called to be better is a lecture. How being asked to call out other men when they are engaging in bullying, sexist, or racist behavior. I didn’t see a lecture, I saw an invitation to tell people when they are going too far instead of keeping it to ourselves. I think that is a good thing.

I sounded the Real Men Feel horn, so I could listen to what others have to say. Online comments have their place, but they don’t make for a quality discussion.

Topics Covered Include:

  • What was your first reaction to the Gillette ad?
  • What is Gillette’s goal with this?
  • Traditional and toxic masculinity
  • What does “boys will be boys” mean to you?
  • The role of mothers
  • Do we want to focus on masculinity or humanity?
  • Is this part of the pussification of men?
  • Thanks to Gillette for sparking needed conversations

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It is only by challenging ourselves to do more that we can get closer to our best.

See the ad everyone is talking about We Believe: The Best Men Can Be

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 128, The Gillette Ad and Backlash

The Best Men Can Be?

The Gillette Ad and Backlash Episode 128, January 17, 2019

A Real Men Feel panel has been formed to discuss the Gillette campaign that seems to have the Internet in an uproar. Much appreciation to Al Flemming, Ameé Quiriconi, Anthony Simeone, Boysen Hodgson, Brandon Boucher, Brian Cardoza, Kenny Earl, and Tony Crisostomo for being a part of this show.

“The ad asks, Is this the best a man can get? How does asking questions come off as lecturing or offensive?” ~Andy Grant

I don’t understand how being called to be better is a lecture. How being asked to call out other men when they are engaging in bullying, sexist, or racist behavior. I didn’t see a lecture, I saw an invitation to tell people when they are going too far instead of keeping it to ourselves. I think that is a good thing.

I sounded the Real Men Feel horn, so I could listen to what others have to say. Online comments have their place, but they don’t make for a quality discussion.

Topics Covered Include:

  • What was your first reaction to the Gillette ad?
  • What is Gillette’s goal with this?
  • Traditional and toxic masculinity
  • What does “boys will be boys” mean to you?
  • The role of mothers
  • Do we want to focus on masculinity or humanity?
  • Is this part of the pussification of men?
  • Thanks to Gillette for sparking needed conversations

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Listen here:


It is only by challenging ourselves to do more that we can get closer to our best.

See the ad everyone is talking about We Believe: The Best Men Can Be

Join the private Real Men Feel Facebook Group

Subscribe to the podcast at RealMenFeel.org/iTunes

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 127, Dealing with Smartphone Addiction

Smartphone addiction

Dealing with Smartphone Addiction Episode 127, January 15, 2019

This week Andy Grant is joined by fitness and lifestyle coach, Oliver Cowlishaw, who shares everything that rose up when he confronted his smartphone addiction. Andy discovered Oliver thanks to a video Oliver made about his effort to cut down on his smartphone use and all the underlying shame that he could no longer ignore.

“If I am emotional, if I am vulnerable, if I let my sensitive nature be on display, bad things will happen. The video was a test of that.” ~Oliver Cowlishaw

Everyone makes choices between authentically feeling whatever is going on for them, and not – by ignoring, stuffing, denying, blaming, attacking… there are countless ways to avoid our emotions. What they all come down to is some sort of a distraction. One of the most potent and addictive distractions we all carry around are smartphones.

What would you be doing if you weren’t looking at your phone? What would you see if you weren’t staring at a screen? What do you feel when you stop reaching for that smartphone?

Topics Covered Include:

  • What prompted you to want to cut down your smartphone use?
  • What did you notice when you curtailed your use?
  • Were those feelings always there?
  • What steps did you take to cut down your smartphone usage?
  • What is healthy, productive use vs. distraction?
  • Do you have a goal for smartphone use?
  • Does anything stand out as easier than expected in lessening your phone use?
  • Shame makes you more susceptible to smartphone addiction.
  • What’s the response to the video been?
  • The valley of deception

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“Reaching for the phone was often to avoid a feeling.” ~Oliver Cowlishaw

See Oliver’s original video Confronting My Smartphone Addiction and Toxic Shame.
Connect with Oliver on Facebook.
Find Oliver on Instagram.
Check out more of Oliver on YouTube.

See the 60 Minutes report on Brain Hacking Built into our Smartphones.

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 126, One Broken Mom’s Thoughts on Men

Ameé Quiriconi of One Broken Mom

One Broken Mom’s Thoughts on Men Episode 126, January 9, 2019

This week Andy Grant is joined by the host of the One Broken Mom podcast, Ameé Quiriconi. As a former wife, and always a mom, Ameé has concerns about the mental health of men, raising a son, dating, and more.

“When we pretend we are perfect, we miss tremendous opportunities to heal and repair.” ~ Ameé Quiriconi

We found that women face many of the same challenges men do, specifically; hiding behind masks, not being encouraged to express emotions, fear that they can’t keep up with expectations, and dealing with the judgment of others.

Topics Covered Include:

  • Tell me about your podcast, One Broken Mom
  • Why call it broken?
  • Did being with a man who wasn’t in touch with his emotions or trauma make things more difficult?
  • Stigmas and expectations around motherhood
  • A violation of a primal trust can shut us down
  • What are some of the best ways you feel repaired?
  • What is the biggest trauma most men experience?
  • Has raising a son changed your perspective on men?
  • Can you have the sort of conversations you have with your son with adult men?
  • Do you want to remain single?
  • Boundaries, codependancy, and fixing
  • Confusing intimacy with intensity
  • Is there something you wish all men realized?

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“I’m introverted until I find people worth extroverting for.” ~Ameé Quiriconi

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Find Ameé on Instagram.
Listen to One Broken Mom on your favorite podcast platform or visit
www.ameequiriconi.com

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Real Men Feel with Ameé Quiriconi