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Real Men Feel: Ep. 127, Dealing with Smartphone Addiction

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Dealing with Smartphone Addiction Episode 127, January 15, 2019

This week Andy Grant is joined by fitness and lifestyle coach, Oliver Cowlishaw, who shares everything that rose up when he confronted his smartphone addiction. Andy discovered Oliver thanks to a video Oliver made about his effort to cut down on his smartphone use and all the underlying shame that he could no longer ignore.

“If I am emotional, if I am vulnerable, if I let my sensitive nature be on display, bad things will happen. The video was a test of that.” ~Oliver Cowlishaw

Everyone makes choices between authentically feeling whatever is going on for them, and not – by ignoring, stuffing, denying, blaming, attacking… there are countless ways to avoid our emotions. What they all come down to is some sort of a distraction. One of the most potent and addictive distractions we all carry around are smartphones.

What would you be doing if you weren’t looking at your phone? What would you see if you weren’t staring at a screen? What do you feel when you stop reaching for that smartphone?

Topics Covered Include:

  • What prompted you to want to cut down your smartphone use?
  • What did you notice when you curtailed your use?
  • Were those feelings always there?
  • What steps did you take to cut down your smartphone usage?
  • What is healthy, productive use vs. distraction?
  • Do you have a goal for smartphone use?
  • Does anything stand out as easier than expected in lessening your phone use?
  • Shame makes you more susceptible to smartphone addiction.
  • What’s the response to the video been?
  • The valley of deception

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“Reaching for the phone was often to avoid a feeling.” ~Oliver Cowlishaw

See Oliver’s original video Confronting My Smartphone Addiction and Toxic Shame.
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Real Men Feel: Ep. 126, One Broken Mom’s Thoughts on Men

Ameé Quiriconi of One Broken Mom

One Broken Mom’s Thoughts on Men Episode 126, January 9, 2019

This week Andy Grant is joined by the host of the One Broken Mom podcast, Ameé Quiriconi. As a former wife, and always a mom, Ameé has concerns about the mental health of men, raising a son, dating, and more.

“When we pretend we are perfect, we miss tremendous opportunities to heal and repair.” ~ Ameé Quiriconi

We found that women face many of the same challenges men do, specifically; hiding behind masks, not being encouraged to express emotions, fear that they can’t keep up with expectations, and dealing with the judgment of others.

Topics Covered Include:

  • Tell me about your podcast, One Broken Mom
  • Why call it broken?
  • Did being with a man who wasn’t in touch with his emotions or trauma make things more difficult?
  • Stigmas and expectations around motherhood
  • A violation of a primal trust can shut us down
  • What are some of the best ways you feel repaired?
  • What is the biggest trauma most men experience?
  • Has raising a son changed your perspective on men?
  • Can you have the sort of conversations you have with your son with adult men?
  • Do you want to remain single?
  • Boundaries, codependancy, and fixing
  • Confusing intimacy with intensity
  • Is there something you wish all men realized?

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“I’m introverted until I find people worth extroverting for.” ~Ameé Quiriconi

Connect with One Broken Mom hosted by Ameé Quiriconi on Facebook.
Find Ameé on Instagram.
Listen to One Broken Mom on your favorite podcast platform or visit
www.ameequiriconi.com

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 125, Living In Alignment With Who You Are

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Living In Alignment With Who You Are Episode 125, December 19, 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by warrior, Brandon Boucher, to share some of his experiences as a combat veteran, activist, and healer, while he’s created a life in alignment with who he truly is instead of what the world expected him to be.

“No good change ever comes out of anger. We need to transmute it.” ~ Brandon Boucher

Brandon openly shares experiences growing up, serving in the U.S. Navy in Afghanistan, seeing pure evil, overcoming PTSD, the Modern Mystery School, and being of service to others.

Topics Covered Include:

  • Expectations of obligation and duty.
  • Do expectations feel good, bad, indifferent?
  • Tell me about life when you weren’t living in alignment?
  • Expectations of alcoholism.
  • Serving in Afghanistan
  • Challenges hearing “Thank you for your service.”
  • Experience as an activist at Standing Rock in North Dakota.
  • What are some of the expectations of being an activist that you break?
  • How was your transition from Afghanistan to being active in causes that fulfill you?
  • Making PTSD vanish.
  • Living a life of service.

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“The veteran community is a microcosm of the world.” ~Brandon BoucherL

Connect with Brandon on Facebook.
His new website will be live soon, KBHealing.com. 
Brandon is also Director of Volunteer Engagement at Veteran Service Corps

Catch the prior show about The Modern Mystery School.

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 124, Buddy Your Buddy

Buddy Your Buddy Episode 124, December 11, 2018

Seeking Human KindnessThis week Andy Grant is joined by coach, mentor, speaker, and U.S Marine Veteran, Buddy Carchide, to talk about how he’s encouraging people to “Buddy Up” to better deal with pain, mental health, and the struggles of life.

“We are all one people. We are all buddies in this world.” ~ Buddy Carchide

Buddy is a self-described, “Simple guy, fighting the good fight and enjoying the grind of everyday life. Helping people through affirmation, enthusiasm, motivation, and support.”

Serving overseas made Buddy realize how the other half of the world lived and made him grateful for all we have in the US, but also lead to problems with anxiety, depression, and PTSD once he was back home. Buddy shares his story and how he’s now working to spread more love and kindness in the world.

Topics Covered Include:

    • What does Buddy Your Buddy mean?
    • Have you always been everybody’s buddy?
    • Was there one experience that brought this shift?
    • Is there one encompassing message in what you do?
    • Replacing “Pay it Forward” with “Buddying Up.”
    • The boomerang theory.
    • Buddy’s post-service mental health challenges.
    • Being a “tough guy” AND asking for help.
    • Buddy’s three favorite tools for dealing with stress and anxiety.
    • Discerning which thoughts serve you and which ones don’t.
    • I appreciate you.
    • Where do you want to see this buddy your buddy movement go?

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“I went from feeling like a superhero to a super zero.” ~Buddy Carchide

Learn more at BuddyYourBuddy.com

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 109, Self-Love for Men

Self-Love for Men Episode 109, September 4, 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by septuagenarian, Fuzzy Manning, to discuss the core issue behind so many challenges men face; a lack of self-love. No, this isn’t a show about masturbation.

Fuzzy is active with the Mankind Project, has been involved in men’s work for 40 years, and is a student of Ayurvedic and Aboriginal medicine.

“All personal growth work is a return to love.” ~Fuzzy Manning

Soak up some of Fuzzy’s wisdom around missions, purpose, living a life of significance and much, much more.

Topics Covered Include:

  • How do you describe self-love?
  • Cries for love, and offerings for love
  • Conditional love
  • How might parents teach children self-love?
  • The impact of gratitude.
  • The power of vulnerability.
  • The toll of growing up in competition
  • The mission all men have
  • The most significant causes of suicide among men.
  • The ManKind Project
  • What are some practices or steps to experience more self-love?

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“My mission on this planet is to help others live a life of significance.” ~Fuzzy Manning

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 108, Success Journeys with Donnie Boivin

Success Journeys Episode 108, August 28, 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by coach, writer, podcaster, and badass, Donnie Boivin, to talk purpose, passion and getting out of your own way. If there’s one thing everyone would like to feel more of, it’s success.

According to the dictionary:
Success is
(1) the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.
(2) the attainment of popularity or profit.
(3) a person or thing that achieves desired aims or attains prosperity.

“I spent years living someone else’s dreams.” ~Donnie Boivin

Donnie Boivin had a lucrative sales career and all the traditional measures of success, but one day he realized these were all someone else’s dreams, not his. Tune in and unleash your inner badass.

Topics Covered Include:

  • Donnie’s journey: including Marines, sales career, and entrepreneurship.
  • All the incorrect ways we define success.
  • How do you define success now?
  • The power of telling your story.
  • Have you learned more from your successes or your failures?
  • Donnie’s most significant lesson from being an entrepreneur.
  • Can you define “inner badass”?
  • Are there things people assume are essential for their success that aren’t?
  • What’s the main thing keeping most people from success?
  • What’s your future look like?

 

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“My entire sales career was a series of masks.” ~Donnie Boivin

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 107, Rescuing The Rescuers with Stephen Kavalkovich

Rescuing The Rescuers Episode 107, August 21, 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by 9/11 first responder, writer, and podcaster, Stephen Kavalkovich, to talk about the immense pressure, and challenges faced by first responders. Stephen holds nothing back while recounting his experiences as a paramedic and drug addict, as well as his recovery and dedication to helping others.

“The greatest way we are going to help humanity is tied to the greatest pain we’ve ever felt.” ~Stephen Kavalkovich

Stephen is one of the most open men we’ve ever had on the show. His is a painful and compelling tale of self-destruction and rebirth that is all too common for first responders, and the rebirth is not guaranteed.

Did you know in the US, we’ve lost more people to opioids than were lost in the Vietnam War?

Topics Covered Include:

  • Stephen on mindset, purpose and discovering it.
  • Addiction and being a first responder.
  • The fall and losing it all.
  • The rescuer being rescued by his old partner.
  • The problems with identifying with something outside of you.
  • What can you do to help an addict in your life?
  • What turned it around for you?
  • Stigmas, shame, and masculinity.
  • The stress when your job is responding to everyone else’s worst day.
  • What do you wish you other 1st responders knew that they don’t?
  • What are your future goals?

 

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“When who I am was gone, I didn’t know who I was anyone.” ~Stephen Kavalkovich

What is Rescue The Rescuer Podcast?

Do You Ever Feel Like Everything Is Going Up In Flames? Firefighters, police officers, soldiers, EMS providers, and all first responders are under immense pressure and stress, day in and day out. This can lead to incredible challenges both at work and at home. Stephen Kavalkovich’s mission is to put a spotlight on these problems and help find solutions with the Rescue the Rescuer podcast and blog. He wants to help shred the shame and highlight strategies that work to alleviate and eliminate common stumbling blocks for First Responders like addiction, PTSD, relationship failure, and more.

Connect with Stephen on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and LinkedIn

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 106, What to Do When Feelings Are Too Much with Nick Haines

What to Do When Feelings Are Too Much Episode 106, August 14, 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by by Kindness Ambassador and Life Architect, Nicholas Haines, to discuss how knowing your energy type can help you to handle your feelings and navigate the world much better.

“If you are unkind to yourself, as a lot of us are, and then start to be really kind to other people, you start to create a split. You’ll feel like a fraud.” ~Nick Haines

Nick is an international speaker, author, strategist and teacher in Chinese energetics. He’s also the creator of The Vitality Test and founder of the Five Institute. Nick is actively creating a world where Kindness is the common language and way of life. From how you treat yourself and others, to how families, business cultures, governments and international change operate.

The conversation touches on depression, anxiety, Chinese medicine, quantum physics, emotions and The Vitality Test, which can help you get a handle on it all.

Topics Covered Include:

  • What is a Kindness Ambassador?
  • The power of being kinder to yourself.
  • Has being Kind to everyone always been the way you operate?
  • Nick’s journey from low self-esteem and anxiety, to speaking at the United Nations.
  • What is the Vitality Test?
  • Where does the test come from?
  • What is the Five Institute all about?
  • The five main energy types and their primary emotions.
  • Andy’s results from the Vitality Test.
  • The problem with boxes.
  • What happens when your life isn’t aligned with your energy.
  • And much more

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“People can be in a habit of not being kind to themsleves because they do something, make a mistake, and the response is they kick the shit out of themselves.” ~Nick Haines

If you want to gain more understanding about yourself and your value to others, then I encourage you to take The Vitality Test. It’s free, simple, and doesn’t require a lot of time.

Learn more about what Nick Haines is up to.
TheVitalityTest.com
FiveInstitute.com
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NoMoreBoxesMovement.com

 

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 105, Developing Self-Confidence with Darnell Donerson

Developing Self-Confidence Episode 105, August 7, 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by writer, Darnell Donerson, to share his very public quest for building his confidence and overcoming negative thinking. Andy first met Darnell thanks to his debut article for GoodMenProject, Developing My Confidence.

“I got fed up with myself. Tired of being the victim.” ~Darnell Donerson

After years of struggling with his confidence, Darnell decided to turn his life around. Now he hopes to be a voice to help and inspire others. See Danell’s column on GoodMenProject.

Topics Covered Include:

  • What lead you to believe you had a problem with confidence?
  • Battling negativity and self-judgment.
  • How was growing up for you?
  • What sort of myths have you come across regarding men and confidence?
  • How immigrants see America.
  • Was there one main reason you wanted to feel more confident?
  • What made you decide to start your blog?
  • The power of setting goals.
  • The feedback Darnell’s received to his writing.
  • Anything come as surprisingly easy or difficult?
  • What are some words you used to use to describe yourself?
  • What about now?
  • What are you looking forward to?

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“Comparison is the thief of joy.” ~Theodore Roosevelt

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 104, Men and Postnatal Depression with Darren Horne

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Men and Postnatal Depression Episode 104, July 31 2018

This week Andy Grant is joined by leadership and communications consultant, Darren Horne, to share his call to adventure including postnatal depression and being a dad. Fatherhood isn’t always a magical and loving experience from the get-go. Postnatal, or postpartum, depression can hit men as well as women.

“Our parents did not bring us into the world to work 40 – 50 hours a week doing a job we hate.” ~Darren Horne

Darren shares how he tried to avoid his depression, as well as all the tools that helped, overcome it. Despite the subject matter, this is an upbeat conversation full of passion and zest for life. See Darren’s column on GoodMenProject.

Topics Covered Include:

  • What is postnatal depression?
  • How common is this for men?
  • Had you ever heard of it or been warned about it?
  • How did you deal with your postnatal depression?
  • Since you’ve opened up about it have you met more men who’ve experienced it too?
  • The pain and grief of a miscarriage.
  • The many gifts coming out of challenges.
  • Going through a divorce and being more resilient.
  • Seeing life as a computer game.
  • We live in a society that makes money off our unhappiness.
  • The meaning of life.
  • Darren’s book for teens.
  • What does your vasectomy have to do with leadership?

 

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“We are the victim of a society that makes us stay safe in a grey and ordinary world.” ~Darren Horne

Darren’s book: Level Up Your Teens

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Learn more about Darren at DarrenHorne.com

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