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Real Men Feel: Episode 61, Finding Hope with Psychological Theorist, Vito Mucci

Finding Hope with Psychological Theorist, Vito Mucci Episode 61, May 23, 2017

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined by author and co-host of Divine Union TV, Vito Mucci, to talk about finding hope. This isn’t airy-fairy stuff. Vito is all about science and psychology for everybody as he shares lessons learned from spending eight years at rock bottom.

Andy shares how triggered he was when first coming across Vito on Facebook. Vito then describes what being a psychological theorist means to him. The bulk of the show is about Vito’s eight years of being at rock bottom and attempting to use alcohol to control his emotions.

“Life is pretty adept at beating us down.” ~Vito Mucci

Vito believes alcohol did indeed save his life. He longed for some way to feel safe and alcohol was that safety for a long time. Drinking gave him a sense of control over his emotions.

The beginning of hope comes from not denying our emotions, but in allowing them.

Validate and celebrate all your little successes, those are the embers of hope.

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Real Men Feel: Episode 60, The Principles of Joy with Appio Hunter

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The Principles of Joy Episode 60, May 16, 2017

This week on Real Men Feel Andy Grant and Appio Hunter revisit Appio’s connection with Source Energy as he shares five universal Principles that can shape the daily experience of clarity, inner peace, self-love, and joy.

The Principles of Joy have been renamed the Tenets of Joy. They were channeled from Source, the Collective known as Samuel, that Appio works with.
Tenet – any opinion, principle, doctrine, dogma, etc., especially one held as true by members of a profession, group, or movement.

1. You are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness but your own.
2. Your human experience is your ultimate expression of joy.
3. The experience of joy is as natural as breathing.
4. Every emotion you feel is an expression of the totality of your existence.
5. When you are joyous the Universe celebrates with you.

The discussion of joy also explores joys gone too far that become addictions. Addictions result from avoidance of something, they are not true joy.

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Real Men Feel: Episode 59, The Good Athlete Project with Jim Davis

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The Good Athlete Project with Jim Davis Episode 59, May 9, 2017

This week on Real Men Feel, Appio Hunter is joined by Jim Davis, founder of The Good Athlete Project, to discuss the power of using sports in character and leadership development.

Jim Davis is a high school staff and student wellness director in Illinois as well as being an athlete, artist, poet, writer and founder of The Good Athlete Project. Jim is passionate about athletics and the arts and shatters so many stereotypes about being a “jock.” Jim doesn’t subscribe to any stereotypes, be it jock, artist, man or anything. Stereotypes, at the most basic level, are lazy thinking. At their worst level they are hateful and dangerous.

Jim explores the metaphor of an anchor and tether. What anchors someone is their absolute belief in an area of life and how much wiggle room there is. If we find out we’re wrong, we need to be willing and able to pick up and move our anchor.

“Be sure you put your feet in the right place, then stand firm.” ~Abraham Lincoln

Jim also shares his path to bringing the Good Athlete Project into the world. As an athlete he did his best to influence and be good for his teammates. Then he pursed that positive influence as a coach, and then expanded that to coach other coaches to meet the needs of more students, and now scaling that model even further espousing character, culture, equity and service.

“Competing is showing off all the good work you’ve done.” ~ Jim Davis

The Good Athlete Project is an international, sports-based, non-profit focused on outreach, leadership training and research. The goal is maximizing athletics as an educational platform. Sports gone wrong is something that fuels Jim. The notion of “locker room” talk and similar poor outcomes of athletics. Sports has the power of momentum, and the Good Athlete Project wants to get in front of stigma inducing behavior.

Being tough does not mean talking tough or degrading women. We made up what “tough” looks like and we can remake it. Ideally there is no barrier to how much we can care about each other.

“If you are part of a team, you should never feel like there is no one to talk to.”~ Jim Davis

The interview wraps up with an interesting discussion on concussions and chronic traumatic encephalopathy (CTE).

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Real Men Feel: Episode 58, Men and Fear

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Men and Fear Episode 58, May 2, 2017

This week on Real Men Feel; Men having fear is very common. Men talking about their fear is not. In this episode Andy Grant and Appio Hunter dig into their own fears.

Andy shares his recent fearful state as well as many common fears for men; fear of being unlovable, fear of being a failure, fear of being inadequate, fear of being a bad man… All of which are based on distorted beliefs and imagining future scenarios that we do not want.

“Fear of feeling is at the root of so many of the fears men deny” ~Andy Grant

Andy, Appio and guests discuss a variety of fears including; financial Loss, excessive emotionality, commitment, absence of commitment, being a slave to an undesirable job, midlife crisis, raising children, visiting a doctor, and fear of death.

“Real men fear.”

Andy’s article that lead to this discussion.

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Real Men Feel: Episode 57, Breaking The Vow of Male Silence with Nige Atkinson

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Breaking The Vow of Male Silence with Nige Atkinson Episode 57, April 25, 2017

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined by Odd Man Out author, Nige Atkinson, to explore the vow of silence among men, the toll it takes, and how we might break that vow.

Nige shares his story of feeling uncomfortable in his own skin from a very young age including sexual abuse, anxiety, anger, rage and the male vow of silence that kept it all building and terrifying. He was taught that tears and emotions were signs of weakness. The vow of male silence is “man up, shut up, and put up” and it is killing men. There is power and healing in breaking the silence and sharing your fears.

“When you break the vow of male silence, you don’t do it just once. You have to break it again and again and again.” ~Nige Atkinson

Nige’s path includes everything from The Incredible Hulk to A Course in Miracles. His upcoming book, Odd Man Out: Breaking The Vow of Male Silence, is for men who want to know more about themselves—especially those men who are quietly struggling and suffering in silence—and for women who are struggling to understand their men.

“Real men cry.” ~Nige Atkinson

To prove that sentiment, Nige and Appio pile praise onto Andy towards the end of this episode and move him to tears.

See the first chapter of Odd Man Out: Breaking The Vow of Male Silence.

This is the Step Class Video of mine that Nige mentions.

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Real Men Feel: Episode 56, Living LAF – Love, Appreciation and Forgiveness for ourselves and others, with James John

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How to Live with LAF – Love, Appreciation and Forgiveness for Ourselves and Others, with James John, Episode 56, April 18, 2017

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined by the co-founder of Love, Appreciate, Forgive (LAF), James John, to talk about filling our daily existence with more love and joy. James stresses there is only one thing to learn; self-love. He also shares some tips on the path to reaching it.

The LAF lifestyle is about living and vibrating the words of Love, Appreciation & Forgiveness into your daily life. It is about opening up to a life of inner peace and surrendering to everything in the present moment. It is about loving yourself and all things.

“Recognize you are already a miracle.” ~James John

There is some deep exploration of ego, energy, and forgiveness. Also what to do when negativity or bad thoughts come into your head, questions from the live audience, and discussion on the difference between judgement and discernment.

“Judgement is insulting God that things aren’t right.” ~James John

A very interesting show on energy, vibration, and loving it all.

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Real Men Feel: Episode 55, What’s the Story Behind Middle-Age Men and Suicide?

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What’s the Story Behind Middle-Age Men and Suicide? with Franklin Cook, Episode 55, April 11, 2017

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant is joined by MassMen.org Outreach Director and Grief Coach, Franklin Cook, to discuss the implications of an expert report, “Preventing Suicide among Men in the Middle Years.”

Men in the middle years are defined as ages 35 – 64 and that group makes up 40% of the suicides in the United States. Andy and Franklin discuss some of the risk factors as well as some prevention techniques. Andy shares his personal experiences with suicidal thoughts and attempts.

“Feeling connected to one another is the most protective thing there is.” ~Franklin Cook

One challenge facing men is our very notion of masculinity. The traditional ideas of being independent, strong, and concealing our emotions can lead to men not seeking help for fear of seeming weak. Too many men are dying due to their belief of what being a man means. If your view of masculinity isn’t serving you, drop it and define a new one. It really is up to each of us.

“Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is ask for help.” ~Andy Grant

Andy’s wife, Lori, even joins us towards the end to share her take.

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Real Men Feel: Episode 54, Male Rites of Passage with Journeymen Founder, Nicky Wilks

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Male Rites of Passage with Nicky Wilks, Episode 54, April 4, 2017

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined by the founder of Journeymen.us, Nicky Wilks, to talk about the need for rituals, ceremonies and rites of passage for creating better men. Nicky shares his man story, and there is a great discussion around mentorship and initiation.

Journeymen’s vision is to regenerate modern society through the inspiration of young men, and Nicky is indeed inspiring while sharing some of his goals for Journeymen and The Quest they offer teenage boys. A popular theme in Real Men Feel is authenticity, and it is oozing out of Nicky and all that Journeymen is up to.

If you think building compassionate and inspired men through nature-based rites of passage, long-term mentoring, and community engagement is something that is sorely needed, you are going to love this show, Nicky, and Journeymen.

“Mentorship is 95% showing up authentically and 5% choosing to do it again the next time.” ~Nicky Wilks

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Real Men Feel: Episode 53, Questions and Answers with Sex Worker, Kimberlee Cline

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Questions and Answers with Sex Worker, Kimberlee Cline, Episode 53, March 28, 2017

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined once again by International Touring Escort, Kimberlee Cline, to answer a wide range of questions related to her life as a sex worker. Highlights include the most surprising things she’s learned about herself, differences between decriminalization and legalization of prostitution, and we even hear from a client.

Appio even shares something for the first time from his past!

Other questions addressed include: Is there an age escorts have to retire? If you had a daughter would you recommend she become an escort? Do clients ever fall in love with you? Do you ever fall in love with clients? Have you ever been scared? And many, many more. A very interesting and educational episode.

“Dating is hard, in or out of sex work.” ~Kimberlee Cline

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Real Men Feel: Episode 52, Awakened Journeys for Men with Jonathan Hermida

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Awakened Journeys for Men with Jonathan Hermida, Episode 52, March 21, 2017

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined by Men’s transformational coach, Jonathan Hermida, to discuss transformative adventures for men and share his own journey of awakening. A journey that took him from feeling insecure and uncomfortable in his own skin to being a globe-trotting coach, willing to drop the destructive mask of masculinity. Listen and learn about a fantastic opportunity to visit Machu Picchu, Peru as well!

“The mask of masculinity is a most destructive force for guys. We are preening peacocks, but crumbling inside.” ~ Jonathan Hermida

Jonathan’s recommended book, The Surrender Experiment by Michael Singer

Learn more about The Awakening Man: Journey Through the Sacred Valley trip to Peru this August.

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