Real Men Feel: Ep. 280, Men & Sex | Fear in Our Sexual Relationships with Women

Men & Sex | Fear in Our Sexual Relationships with Women Episode 280, November 25, 2022

My returning guest today is Dr. Avrum Weiss. Dr. Weiss is a psychotherapist, award-winning author, speaker, and teacher. His decade-long work on understanding the inner lives of men culminated with his recently published bestseller “Hidden in Plain Sight: How Men’s Fears of Women Shape Their Intimate Relationships.”

We talk about what a man’s lack of sexual desire means for a relationship and the root causes of that low desire. Learn what men are taught about sex that harms our relationships and how not to see sex as a performance.

Too many men ignore their sexual desires and use sex as validation and reassurance. Sex is about more than making the woman orgasm. Men often get a bad rap as being selfish lovers, but your pleasure does matter.

It’s no wonder there are so many relationship challenges when you hear what women say they learned from their mothers about men.

“Think of foreplay as starting the minute you open your eyes in the morning.”
Dr. Avrum Weiss

Topics and Questions

1:59 – You were first on a couple of months and eager to return to Real Men Feel to talk about sex. What’s the urgency?
2:50 – The reason behind low sexual desire in men.
4:15 – Why are men so preoccupied with women’s orgasms?
6:55 Men are not experiencing a whole lot of pleasure in sex.
10:23 – If men’s fear of women goes back to Adam and Eve, is that just how it is?
11:49 – Do men cover up their distress from women?
12:21 – How do men go over this sense of competition in sex?
14:43 – How do we get men and women to understand each other better?
15:24 – What are men afraid of related to sex?
17:27 – Is monogamy an artificial creation?
20:07 – Humans are driven by fear.
20:52 – Do women and men see sexual issues or challenges the same way?
22:34 – Cultural differences around the world.
23:22 – What is the best step for a man with low sexual desire to change that and improve his relationship?
24:33 – Is there one more thing you wish more men knew about sex?
26:48 – Don’t make sex the last thing you do in a day
31:08 – What women say they learned from their mothers about men.
32:32 – What is the best way for people to learn more about your work?