Real Men Feel: Ep. 161, What The Heck is Self-Love?

December 10, 2019

What The Heck is Self-Love? Episode 161, December 10, 2019

Mid-life dating and relationship coach, speaker and author, Jonathon Aslay, joins us to discuss self-love; what it can do for us, how we might achieve it, and why so many men are resistant to it. Jonathon is the author of, “What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?

Nothing triggers someone’s lack of self-worth like the dating process.” ~ Jonathon Aslay

Many men are turned off by the word, self-love. Try replacing that with words like self-esteem, self-confidence, self-reliance, self-worth – all of these things are about nurturing ourselves. There is no better way to nurture ourselves than with love for ourselves, and that is a very masculine thing to do.

This is a wide-ranging conversation touching on awareness, victimhood, responsibility, heart-breaking moments, and grieving with love. We touch on aspects of self-love and what gets in our way to experience it. Show yourself some love and give it a listen, then take some new actions.

Topics and Questions Include:

  • (1:25) What does it mean to really love yourself?
  • (3:20) Why would someone want to love themselves?
  • (5:20) Loving yourself doesn’t mean you are always on top of the world and feeling great.
  • (7:28) Is awareness a big key, so we know when am I nurturing myself and when am I avoiding feeling something?
  • (8:44) I know it was a horrible experience that got you to look more closely at self-love, can you tell us about that?
  • (13:13) Do most people embark on a soul-searching journey only after something painful?
  • (15:06) I’ve often heard you need to love yourself before you can love someone else, is that just selfish and egotistical?
  • (16:54) The strongest thing a man can do for himself.
  • (19:46) What are some signs that you don’t love yourself?
  • (23:01) Why are so many men resistant to self-love?
  • (24:32) Since boys are often taught not to feel, does that mean we can learn to feel? Is this a learnable skill?
  • (27:22) Can you share any techniques to better understand or even create a sense of self-love?
  • (35:42) Being right or wrong related to the ego.
  • (37:37) What are some of the most comment complaints women have when it comes to dating men?
  • (40:00) Exploring emotional unavailability in men.
  • (42:30) Can you share a habit, practice, program, or book that has helped you?
  • (44:08) What is one thing you wish more men knew?
  • (48:26) What are you proud of?
  • (50:15) What are you looking forward to?
  • (53:42) Get the first two chapters of his book for free.

Faith and trust in oneself, that is the essence of what loving yourself is.” ~ Jonathon Aslay

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