Real Men Feel: Episode 48, The Anatomy of Awareness with guest, Amanda Foy

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The Anatomy of Awareness with Amanda Foy, Episode 48, February 21, 2017

On the latest Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined by their friend, Emotional Strength Trainer Amanda Foy, to explore emotions, awareness, and how emotional trauma affects our cells and health.

Amanda says that guilt and shame are the only useless emotions. They have no purpose but to make you feel horrible. Guilt is acceptance without positive action. Shame is a lack of acceptance or acknowledgment of having a human experience. While trauma is defined by each person. What one person finds traumatic another person may not. It can depend on what we were taught and how we are expected to be.

“When you get sick, it is your body’s way of taking you out of a situation you don’t know how to handle. Illness comes when you are too stubborn to do the work you need to do, so it is a good thing.” ~ Amanda Foy

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Amanda’s favorite book: The Secret Language of Your Body

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Am I A Man?

Hi, I’m Andy and I’m a human male. That may be quite obvious when you see or hear me, but for a long time, I didn’t feel like a man. I questioned my manliness, my masculinity, and wondered why I never felt like a “real” man. I was sure if the true me was known that my mythical man card would be taken away.

I was an emotional child, a scared child who lived in dread of being picked on, pointed out, or even noticed. A hard look in my direction was often enough to bring on tears. I was anxious and on edge, which would eventually exhaust me into deep sadness and depression.

I was raised by a single mom, which made me feel like less of a man from the start. My mother always said I was such a good boy and somehow just knew what she wanted. I didn’t act out or get in trouble. This was in nursery and elementary school, my acting out came later.

I was afraid of being called on in school, not for getting an answer wrong, but for getting it right and being ostracized for being smart, or coming off as a teacher’s pet. I was afraid of being noticed on the playground. I was afraid of being made fun of at the bus stop. Without realizing it, fear ruled my life.

At the age of 20, while in a mental hospital, I remembered being molested by a neighbor when I was five years old. It was a bit of a relief to discover there was a reason for those years of not feeling safe. But it brought new worries and concerns: Since I was sexually abused by a man, was I gay? Since I was molested will I become a molester? Those fears and more played over and over in my head, but I never dared speak of them.

I thought real men were tough and stoic. So I pretended by being quiet, keeping to myself, and having few friends. I drank my way through high school and college—which seemed a very manly and accepted thing to do—but most nights, I ended up thinking my friends were just using me. I isolated myself in my room, under a bed, or literally in a closet on multiple occasions, crying.

This was no way to live, let alone being a man, so I tried to stop. I tried to stop living and attempted suicide multiple times in my teens and early 20s.

It was only years later that I began to see and respect my strengths: My resilience, my true toughness, my bravery and courage, my willingness and authenticity in feeling. I saw that the more I opened up and shared, the more others did too. My vulnerable risks were always rewarded. I began to think, maybe my willingness to feel is what really makes me a man? Hiding, resisting, and denying may appear to be traditional manliness but it is another aspect of fear.

What if the bravest thing you could do was cry? What if you felt strong enough to admit that you don’t have it all figured out? What if real men feel?

Originally published at GoodMenProject.com

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About The Author
Andy GrantAndy Grant is a best-selling author, award-winning speaker, Transformational Energy Coach, Akashic Records Reader and suicide prevention activist. He holds certificates in Positive Psychology, the Enwaken Coaching System, Akashic Records, Infinite Possibilities and Reiki, as well as other leadership programs and energy work modalities.

Andy teaches workshops ranging from energy tools to ebook publishing, and is the founder of Real Men Feel, a movement encouraging men to come out of the emotional closet. He also facilitates monthly men’s groups and is a contributor at the GoodMenProject. As a survivor of multiple suicide attempts, Andy knows how low we as human beings can feel, and he is committed to helping people realize how magnificent life is meant to be. Learn more about Andy at TheAndyGrant.com

Real Men Feel: Episode 47, What I Learned About Men Working As An Escort with guest, Deva Logan

What I Learned About Men While Working As An Escort with Deva Logan, Episode 47, February 13, 2017

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined once again by the Vixen Goddess, Deva Logan, to share the top five things she learned about men while working as an escort. As a special Valentines Day treat, Deva also leads us through a masters class in oral sex.

If explicit language bothers you, stay away from this episode. If you are cool with it, and are ready to love that pussy and dick, enjoy!

“If men decided and accepted that there masculinity was established at birth and they could be whoever the fuck they wanted to be, life would be much easier.” Deva Logan

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Connect with Deva at Facebook.com/DevaLogan, Twitter @devathegoddess, and Instagram DevaTheGoddess

Catch Deva’s first appearance on Real Men Feel – Episode 44: Open Relationships

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Real Men Feel: Episode 46, The Evolved Masculine with guest, Destin Gerek

Real Men Feel - Destin Gerek

The Evolved Masculine with Destin Gerek, Episode 46, February 7, 2017

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined by Destin Gerek to talk about the archetype of the Evolved Masculine, what it means and making a positive impact on the world. We also delve into the notion of toxic masculinity, the power of experience, that Trump guy, the need to hold up what is right not only call out what is wrong, and much more.

Destin shares some of his own journey, including the realization that the version of masculinity shown to him while growing up wasn’t for him, and his time living the Erotic Rockstar life.

Destin calls on all good men in the world to claim their fucking power! “The more I serve, the more I receive.”

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Check out the Evolved Masculine Blueprint

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Tune in to Destin’s show The Evolved Masculine: Redefining Sex, Power & Success – Destin Gerek

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This week’s recommend book – The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden

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