Real Men Feel: Ep. 37, Discovering Your Soul Mission with Dr. Michael Bilkis

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Discovering Your Soul Mission with Dr. Michael Bilkis, Episode 37, November 29, 2016

On this episode of Real Men Feel, Andy Grant, Appio Hunter and guest Dr. Michael Bilkis discuss men and personal growth, mission, shadow and healing. Michael shares the difference between joy and happiness as well as the power of the ManKind Project’s New Warrior Training.

This may be my favorite line from any show, “I needed the sharp sword of a loving man to cut me open.” Other highlights include that vision + action = mission, and our mission often comes from our deepest wound.

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 36, Men In Support of Women

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Men In Support of Women, Episode 36, November 22, 2016

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant, Appio Hunter and guests have a spirited discussion around sexism, bigotry, and white male privilege. How can men support people who are living in fear?

We’d been planning a RMF show to tackle hate speech between men and women. This was suggested by a female fan before the presidential election. Now, the hate speech really has escalated as a fearful, hate-filled minority is feeling very empowered and assaulting (verbally and physically) women, immigrants (meaning anyone not white), and LBGTQ people. This episode’s title was originally called “Men Vs. Women”, but here has been more than enough of that. I have now dubbed it “Men In Support of Women” and I’m inviting you to join in and add a comment here, or anywhere you see this episode, saying something, anything, supportive of those who are scared.

Men, be willing to speak up, offer support, an ear, a shoulder… be willing.
Eventually, hopefully, we will just be people in support of people.

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Anger, by David Whyte from his book, Consolations: The Solace, Nourishment and Underlying Meaning of Everyday Words

ANGER is the deepest form of compassion, for another, for the world, for the self, for a life, for the body, for a family and for all our ideals, all vulnerable and all, possibly about to be hurt. Stripped of physical imprisonment and violent reaction, anger is the purest form of care, the internal living flame of anger always illuminates what we belong to, what we wish to protect and what we are willing to hazard ourselves for. What we usually call anger is only what is left of its essence when we are overwhelmed by its accompanying vulnerability, when it reaches the lost surface of our mind or our body’s incapacity to hold it, or when it touches the limits of our understanding. What we name as anger is actually only the incoherent physical incapacity to sustain this deep form of care in our outer daily life; the unwillingness to be large enough and generous enough to hold what we love helplessly in our bodies or our mind with the clarity and breadth of our whole being.

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 35, A Shaman’s Journey with Brad “Little Frog” Hudson

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A Shaman’s Journey, Episode 35, November 15, 2016

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined by Brad “Little Frog” Hudson, a shamanic healer and teacher, best-selling author, and purveyor of fine meats. Brad shares some of his experience becoming a shaman and what sort of work that includes. Discussion covers rock and roll, BBQ, and God.

Brad touches on being shown by Spirit, the death of the self, and choosing heart over head. He also shares a technique to free yourself from the past and encourages us all to ask; “What would make me the happiest person in the world?”

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Yes, There is Such a Thing as Practical Enlightenment

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We all know the image: a wise man sitting on a mountaintop. A hermit who has left the world behind in order to contemplate life in isolation, and therefore reach “enlightenment.” It’s such a widespread notion in our collective consciousness that it’s become more than a cliche: it’s been used to sell soup.

Google the phrase “guru on mountaintop” and see how many comic strips you get as a result.

Sure, it’s possible to reach a state of inner peace and self-knowledge if you take yourself away from the world. With none of the distractions of our interconnected age, who couldn’t attain nirvana?

The problem is, chilling out alone on an actual mountain for years on end isn’t an option for many of us. And even if it was, would you really want to be up there forever? Even the wise man has to come down sometimes, whether it’s to get some food, some Starbucks, or upgrade his smartphone. Heck, what if you just get lonely, you social animal?

Then there’s the imaginary mountains we often climb, when we mentally check out from life. When we separate ourselves from others with our anger, cynicism, and mistrust, we’ve scaled a peak taller than Everest. We think we’re safe up there, and maybe we are…for a while.

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“It’s ommmmmm ommmmmm good!”

But what happens to your mountain zen when you step back into the bustle of the human world?

When you’re not wrapped in your cozy blanket of solitude, does your inner peace evaporate? If it does, maybe it’s time to think about some more practical enlightenment.

Consider this: what if “real” enlightenment isn’t a rare thing that you can only obtain through self-imposed exile from other people?

What if the exact opposite is true: real enlightenment is believing you have the mental and emotional skills to keep your cool no matter where you are in life. 

Practical enlightenment is knowing how to keep yourself happy in the middle of life’s incredible whirlwind. The trick is giving yourself permission to be happy. After that, it doesn’t matter what fulfills you, as long as it keeps you living instead of just existing in an aloof shell.

We’re not meant to freeze our butts off on some unreachable height. Because the true meaning of life is to live it. Yes, living brings you into contact with other people. And that’s okay. 

It’s okay to lose your temper, get depressed, or lose faith in humanity at times. If you remember your practical enlightenment, you know those feelings are natural and temporary.

guru-laptopNo, people aren’t going to stop being those beings all around you who can thrill, frustrate, disappoint, enrich, hurt, love, betray, and motivate you. That’s the way things are supposed to be, because without those challenges, your life would truly become like living on mountaintop: unchanging, utterly silent, and boring.

So come on down, before the wise man grabs our usual table and nurses a coffee for three hours for the free WiFi.

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anthony simeoneAbout the Author
Anthony Simeone is a writer, speaker, personal development activist, and social change warrior with over two decades of experience studying the practical application of literature, philosophy, psychology, and other disciplines. The culmination of his work is the Live the Hero concept, which he offers as a “life path” for use in overcoming daily obstacles. Live the Hero combines the wisdom found in the arts and humanities with the latest discoveries related to modern neuroscience. You can contact Anthony and learn more about his work at livethehero.com.

Real Men Feel: Ep. 34, Being A Man Among Men

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Being A Man Among Men, Episode 34, November 8, 2016

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter talk about their experiences in male-only groups. Appio shares his time going through “reparative” or “conversion” therapy for being a gay man and the positive experiences it actually lead to. Andy gives a brief update on his New Warrior Training Adventure weekend.

The show touches on men’s groups, fraternities, and being comfortable in your own skin.

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I Love When People Swear At Me

Really! I love it when people get so upset with me that they let the swears rip. Well, not in all cases. I’m not talking about road rage or bar brawls, but rather when I’m intentionally triggering people to take a look at themselves or challenging some limiting belief they might have.

I first discovered I enjoyed this with one of the earliest videos I posted around suicide six years ago. I share this story in my book, Still Here: How To Succeed In Life After Failing At Suicide, and when I speak about suicide prevention, but I’ve got a short video called The Best Way To Die and while some people comment thanking me for the video, the vast majority of comments are furious, swear-filled rants. At first, this really bothered me, but as I’ve gotten more comfortable with myself I’ve come to take a certain satisfaction in such comments. I know for at least a couple of minutes that the person writing has stopped beating themselves up, has stopped searching for a way to die and is directing their anger at my instead at only at themselves.
This morning I received an email titled, Fuck You. Needless to say it got my attention and I was thrilled to see that it was in response to the Real Men Feel podcast. I love that I have multiple platforms and messages triggering people into “hating” me for a moment as they are willing to open up to allowing more for them.
Please note: I’m still a fan of receiving pleasant emails too, so you don’t have to only swear at me.
The sort of emails I get
Thank you, Sean, and thanks to all the Real Men Feel listeners, readers, viewers, contributors and fans for being the men (and women) you are!

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About The Author
Andy GrantAndy Grant is a best-selling author, award-winning speaker, Transformational Energy Coach, Akashic Records Reader and suicide prevention activist. He holds certificates in Positive Psychology, the Enwaken Coaching System, Akashic Records, Infinite Possibilities and Reiki, as well as other leadership programs and energy work modalities.

Andy teaches workshops ranging from energy tools to ebook publishing, and is the founder of Real Men Feel, a movement encouraging men to come out of the emotional closet. He also facilitates monthly men’s groups. As a survivor of multiple suicide attempts, Andy knows how low we as human beings can feel, and he is committed to helping people realize how magnificent life is meant to be. Learn more about Andy at NavitasCoach.com

Real Men Feel: Ep. 33, The 2016 Presidential Election – How Does It Feel?

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The 2016 Presidential Election: How Does It Feel?, Episode 33, November 1, 2016

This week on Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined by, Shawna Pelton, Anthony Simeone, Lori Grant and Ken Russell to talk about this unique election. This is a conversation you will not find on Fox, CNN or any major media outlet.

What sort of things do we cover? Reflections on femininity, women in power, triggers, victim-hood, blame, empowerment, dis-empowerment, sexism, privilege and fear. It is out longest show yet and easily could have kept going.

And when it’s all said and done, we get the leaders we deserve.
Please vote – https://www.vote.org/

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