Real Men Feel: Ep. 13, Everyday Spirituality and Archangels with Pete Cossaboon

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Everyday Spirituality and Archangels with Pete Cossaboon, Episode 13, May 31, 2016
On this episode of Real Men Feel, hosts Andy Grant and Appio Hunter, are joined by the Angel Encourager, Pete Cossaboon to talk about spirituality, rituals and Archangels.

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Accepting What Is

Accepting What IsEach morning I pull a couple of Oracle Cards and post one to Instagram and Facebook. Yesterday morning it was, Accepting What Is, and it connected with me even more than usual. My family is dealing with a number of health issues and I’ve been witnessing acceptance in others and in myself on a daily basis.

My father has been on a slow mental and physical decline for a decade or so. His dementia and physical degradation have picked up speed in the past couple weeks which coincides with his wife going in and out of the hospital twice this month dealing with her own health and pain issues. They have both had to accept needing help, something they’ve resisted for a long time. Fortunately, they have support via insurance, their own finances, and nearby friends and family as well.

Two days ago my wife and I accompanied my dad to visit his wife in the hospital. He needs a wheelchair to get around the hospital these days and he nearly fell every time he tried to get in or out of it as well as in or out of the car. I had to help him go to the bathroom, a first for us both, and it was all I could do to be present and truly helpful and not just mentally checkout and disappear.

Yesterday he decided to find out if he could still drive or not. At our urging it had been a couple weeks since he’d been behind the wheel. The short drive he took scared the shit out of him as he came close to multiple accidents, he later reported. For the first time he’s accepted his driving days are over. Of course the challenge will be, does he remember that tomorrow? When he got back home to an empty house following his wild ride yesterday afternoon, he fell. It took him 90 minutes to get himself back up. That has ended his arguments of not needing someone there all the time. He no longer can track the day or time. He can no longer be trusted to take his medication on his own, and we’ve had to call in help to be with him at night and soon now expand it to 24×7.

Even knowing his mental state, it is still very difficult for me to not listen to him, to not believe him, to not trust him. That is what I must accept. I can no longer be the good son who does what his father asks. He no longer knows what is in his, or anyone else’s’, best interest. He can no longer be trusted or believed. That has been the most difficult, and unexpected, part for me.

I’m sure some men are very good care takers and comfort providers, but I am not. I want to run, and ignore this all. I thank God on an hourly basis for my wife, Lori, who has been going to his house every day for the last few weeks. Being a care taker is something that comes naturally to her, plus she doesn’t have the baggage of growing up with this man weighing on things too.

This is the message on the Accepting What Is card.
It is an act of both power and faith to love, honor, and accept what is. At times it can be challenging to truly accept what’s occurring in your life. When you do so, however, you affirm that there’s a plan for your life and that everything is working for your highest good. Accepting “what is” doesn’t mean that you can’t work to change it, because you can. It does mean that there is gentle, yet profound, awareness that every experience can support your highest good and spiritual evolution.
If there is something you just can’t accept, start by gently acknowledging the fact that you can’t accept it. As you increase your own acceptance in life, this will help others be at peace in their own lives.”
Acceptance. It can be a real bitch.

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About The Author
Andy GrantAndy Grant is a best-selling author, award-winning speaker, Transformational Energy Coach, Akashic Records Reader and suicide prevention activist. He holds certificates in Positive Psychology, the Enwaken Coaching System, Akashic Records, Infinite Possibilities and Reiki, as well as other leadership programs and energy work modalities.

Andy teaches workshops ranging from energy tools to ebook publishing, and is the founder of Real Men Feel, a movement encouraging men to come out of the emotional closet. He also facilitates monthly men’s groups. As a survivor of multiple suicide attempts, Andy knows how low we as human beings can feel, and he is committed to helping people realize how magnificent life is meant to be. Learn more about Andy at NavitasCoach.com

Real Men Feel: Ep. 12, Busting Relationship Stereotypes with Geoff Laughton

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Busting Relationship Stereotypes with Geoff Laughton, Episode #12, May 24, 2016
On this episode of Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter, are joined by author and relationship coach, Geoff Laughton to talk about men, relationships, myths and stereotypes.

Check out Geoff’s book, Built To Last: Designing & Maintaining a Passionate, Loving and Lasting Relationship.

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Men and Body Image

It is pretty rare to hear men talk openly about their bodies. Which is a shame because guys are subject to just as much bull about what their body is “supposed” to look like as women are. We all have unrealistic goals by comparing ourselves to doctored photos of bodies beyond perfection in the media. Body shaming and poor self-image is an issue for many men as well as women.

My years of depression and suicidal ideation were certainly never helped by my thoughts of my own body. Today, I like me, like taking photos and have no problem looking at them, but if I were to focus solely on my body or prance around in a Speedo, it would be a very different story. Then I’d probably only see what I don’t like, too much there, not enough here… I would hide, feel ashamed, and quickly despise myself.

This video was recently shared in the Real Men Feel Facebook group and I love it. I’m not familiar with the Try Guys, but I’m fans now. It is so refreshing to see young guys talk openly and honestly about their own body image. Check it out.

Imperfect and beautiful

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About The Author
Andy GrantAndy Grant is a best-selling author, award-winning speaker, Transformational Energy Coach, Akashic Records Reader and suicide prevention activist. He holds certificates in Positive Psychology, the Enwaken Coaching System, Akashic Records, Infinite Possibilities and Reiki, as well as other leadership programs and energy work modalities.

Andy teaches workshops ranging from energy tools to ebook publishing, and is the founder of Real Men Feel, a movement encouraging men to come out of the emotional closet. He also facilitates monthly men’s groups. As a survivor of multiple suicide attempts, Andy knows how low we as human beings can feel, and he is committed to helping people realize how magnificent life is meant to be. Learn more about Andy at NavitasCoach.com

Let’s Rewrite the Rules of Manhood Together

man-in-crowdYou know something’s wrong. You can feel it.

Like Neo in The Matrix, you know things aren’t the way they’re supposed to be. But we’re not talking about the world around you. There’s something happening with your inner world. It has you frustrated, restless, unhappy. But knowing about the wrongness hasn’t made it better. In fact, it’s made things worse.

I’ve been there, trust me. For decades, I wandered through my own life without a purpose. I often felt useless, no matter what I achieved. It took a lot of time and suffering before I began to suspect I was running on obsolete “social software.”

Like me, maybe you fell for the notion that men are supposed to be pillars of strength that don’t feel too much, think too much, or dream too big. Maybe you were taught the world is a nasty, dog-eat-dog place where dreams are a luxury we can’t afford. This worldview may have sent you into a downward spiral of isolation and depression.

Maybe, like me, you’ve never really given up hope that things could be different.

A New Man for This Century…and Beyond

The opening line of Allen Ginsberg‘s Howl says “I saw the best minds of my generation destroyed by madness.” I saw this line played out too many times in my own life and the lives of men around me. Finally, I realized the madness was being taught to us, blindly passed down because “that’s just the way it is.”

I’d had enough. I waded through years of struggle and a lot of trial-and-error experimentation with different religions, philosophies, and therapies. It wasn’t until I brought together ideas from a wide variety of teachings that I discovered something that worked for me.

What I discovered is, ultimately, you must start by being the hero of your own life.

You must make the conscious choice to believe in your own personal power to determine your own purpose and meaning for your life. It’s the vital first step on the road to fulfillment and happiness.

I’m so inspired by the creators of Real Men Feel, Andy Grant and Appio Hunter. They’re kindred spirits to me and any other modern man who is tired of laboring under the stereotype of the macho man. They are fellow travelers on the road.

Most importantly, Andy and Appio have planted the seed of what I believe will become a community of men who can no longer sit back and keep silent about men’s issues. Like me, they want to give you alternatives to the male stereotype we’ve been slaving under for too long. That old framework is rotted out, and together we can build something better to replace it.

What Have You Got to Lose?

It’s not just our minds that are at risk. Our lives are also at stake. Approximately 87 men commit suicide every day in the United States. Over six million men suffer from a major bout of depression every year, which not only affects the mind but the body as well (it’s a contributing factor for heart disease).

Let’s be clear: I’m not talking about saving the world. I’m talking about saving you.

But when you save yourself, a funny thing often happens. The Talmud says “whoever saves a life, it is considered as if he saved an entire world.”There are opportunities every day, big and small, for us to rise to the challenges of life and act heroically.

If you or someone you know would benefit from the weekly Real Men Feel show, I encourage you to check out the show and spread the word about it. Strength comes from numbers and together, we can work to create a new, positive definition of what it means to be a man.

If you liked this post, please share it with those you feel will benefit from reading it. And please leave a comment about your own struggles and what you’ve done to overcome adversity.

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anthony simeoneAbout the Author
Anthony Simeone is a writer, speaker, and social activist with over two decades of experience studying the practical application of literature, philosophy, psychology, and other disciplines. The culmination of his work is the Live the Hero concept, which he offers as a life path for use in overcoming life’s daily obstacles. Live the Hero combines the wisdom found in the arts and humanities with the latest discoveries related to modern neuroscience. You can contact Anthony and learn more about his work at livethehero.com.

Real Men Feel: Ep. 11, Suicide, Hope, and Grief with Franklin Cook

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Suicide, Hope, and Grief with Franklin Cook, Episode 11, May 10, 2016
On this episode of Real Men Feel, hosts Andy Grant and Appio Hunter, are joined by grief coach, Franklin Cook to talk about suicide, hope and grief.
Hear some personal stories from men at MassMen.org

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Mother’s Day

It is quite fitting, or a random coincidence, that I’m launching this site, Real Men Feel, on Mother’s Day. Mothers are the one thing most men in our society seem to be encouraged to love, even if that isn’t expressed verbally. Think of all the athletes interviewed on live TV after they did whatever great thing they did to win the big game and they sign off with, “Hi, Mom!”
Whether your mother is here or gone, your relationship is close or challenging, you wouldn’t be here without her so send her some love today. Hold her in your thoughts, pay her a visit, send a gift… your options are endless. Even if you can’t stand your mother, recognize that you simply would not be if not for her.

10 Things Mom Never Told You

Hi, Mom! I love you, mom. I miss you. Please forgive me. Thank you. I’m sorry. Word to your mother. Happy Mother’s Day!

  Word To Your Mother
Rhetoric is Rendered

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About The Author
Andy GrantAndy Grant is a best-selling author, award-winning speaker, Transformational Energy Coach, Akashic Records Reader and suicide prevention activist. He holds certificates in Positive Psychology, the Enwaken Coaching System, Akashic Records, Infinite Possibilities and Reiki, as well as other leadership programs and energy work modalities.

Andy teaches workshops ranging from energy tools to ebook publishing, and is the founder of Real Men Feel, a movement encouraging men to come out of the emotional closet. He also facilitates monthly men’s groups. As a survivor of multiple suicide attempts, Andy knows how low we as human beings can feel, and he is committed to helping people realize how magnificent life is meant to be. Learn more about Andy at NavitasCoach.com

Real Men Feel: Ep. 10, Spirituality and Fear of Death with Pete Cossaboon

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Spirituality and Fear of Death with Pete Cossaboon, Episode 10, May 3, 2016
On this episode of Real Men Feel, hosts Andy Grant and Appio Hunter, discuss everyday spirituality and the fear of death with guest, Pete Cossaboon, The Angel Encourager.

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